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male
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30-35,
*ukec24
writes:hi everyone this girl who i'm madly in love with has just got engaged. I think about her all of the time and everything that i see reminds me of her. i would like to tell her how i feel but i know that if i do it will just be complicated between me and her and i know she wants to marry her fiancee and i want her to be happy no matter what but the thing is that i love her and no matter how hard i try i can't get over her does anyone have any tips about what i should do but none about finding a girl i want to do that after iam over her thank you in advance
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 October 2009):
Don't tell her. She's engaged and you might end up in a lot of trouble. Instead, focus on going out and having fun, and taking up a hobby that involves other girls. This way, you'll be able to meet them without having to ask them out or anything like that. Just keep busy around other people. This girl is taken, so say nothing and move on.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 October 2009):
Yep you really have messed this one up. But we all do stupid things like this in our teens.
In general if you like a girl you have to tell her up front. So she doesn't think you are her friend and trust you with things when in reality you are not her friend at all. You are a prospective boyfriend.
Also, then you don't get to the point where you are in love with a girl who is never going to like you back.
So what to do?
Don't tell her. Why cause problems for her? Just take some time away from her. Don't see her for a while and really TRY not to think about her. TRY to think about other girls and make your mind up that you WANT to be over her.
Hang out with your other friends for a while and spend some time being a lad with your male friends.
It'll be a long road and you will never be a close to her as you are now but you'll never be happy following her round knowing you can never have her.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): Hi
You are 16-17. Already so deeply in love??? Sorry to sound a little cynical but this seems to be the case of a serious crush!!! YOu will continue to think about this lady all the time, unless you employ your mind elsewhere!!! GET BUSY. Indulge in activities that you absolutely enjoy and just get mentally tired. Do things, study. Hang out with friends and just try to get on with your life. I'm sure you have a tom of things to do, right?? And, hey, love will happen. A fulfilling relationship with a lovely girl too will happen. But, this is the time for you to build your character, to grow as a person, to be a giddy, reckless teenager... These are the years that will be one of the most memorable in your life... don't waste them by brooding...
LIVE okay.
Tell me about all the crazy things that you are now indulging in... because I know that after reading this suggestion you will start... and soon you'll be too involved in living...
Hey, I suggest a hike or a bungee jump or something creative...
Paint the world, it's your canvas!!!
LOTS OF LOVE
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