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writes:Hi. My mother in law says I am not giving them enough of my husband's money.(their son).she is always calling me and telling me in my face every time that we have to prioritize them in our budget.she will not appreciate anything we give her saying its too small. We give our best all the time. i am now afraid of visiting her. They have gone to the extent of pushing my husband's ex to cause problems in our marriage. Sh calls my line and my husband's phone every day even at odd hours to jus hang up when yu answer or to mock my husband of what "little"we have done for th family, since sh now knows evrythg that goes on. We have been relating well with my husband but my problem is now my husband is tormenting me daily believing every word his family says about me whc is similar to what th ex says. The family has told him that i have boyfrends and one day i wll embarass him . And th ex also sings th same tune. Now my husband feels i may be doing sometg behind his back whc h is not aware of because he says his family especially his mom can never be wrong. We no longer have peace in our house .he is always intimidating me, interogating me about my movements saying he is cushioning himself against any cheating he may find out about me. Guys its really disturbing me. I have never cheated on my husband, am not cheating on him and dont intend to do so but he seems to believe his family . Or maybe he feels torn apart between us. Help i dont know what to do or how t handle this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): Why do you have to give your mother in law any money anyway?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 December 2012):
Hi there. Why do you and your husband have to prioritize financial support to his parents?
Do they work, or are they retired?
Why is it that his mother doesn't like you?
Is she jealous of you perhaps?
And why does she get your husband's ex to cause problems in your marriage?
Has your relationship with her always been strained like this?
Or has there been some major argument between you and her that has sparked this whole situation?
Looking back now, there must be a time at which you could say when you think about it more, that it was at a certain time that it all began.
Can you think of something that happened or can you think of a time, when this antagonistic behaviour of hers, all began in the first place?
So what I am really saying here, is it can't have always been this way, otherwise you wouldn't have married your husband in the first place.
It just NEVER would have worked!
People aren't just angry for no reason.
There has to have been a beginning.
If you could clarify it for me further, well then I could help you some more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): Hi, Sorry to hear about your drama, to be honest your marriage is in trouble as you dont have the support of your husband and your MIL is not about to let go. You will have to test your husbands loyalty and love for you by taking a stand and you may lose. I would tell him that I cannot continue a relationship without trust and loyalty and I dont want to make him unhappy by staying in a relationship where all we do is fight. It is best that we part and let one another be happy. Also tell him that you love him and this is not what you want but you also cannot continue marriage like this.His response will be an answer as to whether this marriage will withstand the external influence. This conversation must be done in calm and not hostile moument. Also prepare a nice romantic candle lit diner and tell him if this are to end you would like it done him knowing that you love him and there never was any one else. Goodluck
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