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*inajoy
writes:How can i make friends? Im 23 years old and moved to greater manchester nearly 3 years ago now. I still haven't met any girls i can get on with and talk to, i miss going out clubbing and shopping just general girly stuff. I feel very alone as most of my best friends and family live 5 hours drive away. Ive met people at work but everyone is alot older then me and have familys. ive also joined the college but still failed to meet people there. Im a really nice person and will always be there for a friend, just wish i could make some. Any suggestions?
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 There is no one way to make friends that has been written down and been successful every time someone has followed the steps. You meet friends in an atmosphere where everyone has something in common. You can meet them at work, at a book club, at a cooking class. You never know where or when you're going to meet someone you hit it off with.
I think that meeting friends is a lot more intimidating than meeting potential dates. Friends are not physically attracted to each other, which makes finding dates a lot easier because you're using something very obvious to attract another person. My best friend didn't approach me and say, "Hey, I think you're really hot. You want to go out sometime and hang out?" Nah, it's a little different for platonic relationships.
Three years does seem like a long time to go without some kind of companionship. Maybe the place you are living isn't good for you, and you should look into moving back to the place that makes you feel more at home. But, if you need to stay put, try doing some extracurricular activities at college, that way you'll have shallowed the pool and can find people more into the same things you are.
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