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*amohir
writes:Is there any true in the motto that Love always produces love? Can One's love(honest and indisputable one) produce love to other side(be it male or female) even if there exist no one? What you think, is it worth or futile endevour being with someone who does not love you,just because you love him/her? Can one love be enough for both? Reply to this Question
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reader, samohir +, writes (30 September 2007):
samohir is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everybody for giving an opinion. In the course of my life, i have found out that either:
a)im more interested and in love with somebody
b) somebody is more inclined to it
NEVER BOth Parties to Feel at least somewhere to same intensity.
I asked this question since im in a kind of loosing hope that ever can happen. And when i come to the long term, i do not know whats more fitable..I would say both are not,but that would mean probably long term lonliness which nobody wants..Even maybe is more authentic form of life?
Thank you again to all of you
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 As often, I agree with Frank.
I would also like you to notice that there are innumerable stories of one party loving the other and not being loved in return. So, if, in your particular case, you are expecting that
a) someone will get to love you after you shower him with interest
or
b) you will get to love somebody because of his strong expressions of interest
in the long term, most likely you are wrong.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 In the short term, yes it can work. Long term takes more than that. I beleive that everyone should be with someone that loves them back. Otherwise, over time, the emptiness inside destroys a part of who they are on a deeper level.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): It is true to a certain extent. Like I have met guys who liked me and I liked them back. They asked me out and I was very flirty, showed lots of interest, treated them really well, and above all showed lots of interest. I have had guys fall inlove with me because of that. It turned from interest to love. Because if we had gone out and I acted uninterested they probably would have lost interest. So to a certain extent it is true. But it only works if a guy is actually interested in you. Because if he doesn't like you then nothing you can do will change that and you are just wasting your time.And the type of "love" or interest that you show a guy that likes you also has to be tactful. You can't just throw yourself at his feet. That wouldn't make you look good or interesting. But you shouldn't play games either. I guess you have to find a balance between being yourself and at the same time knowing how to get what you want. I guess to really love someone requires you to love and respect yourself. And if you are loving someone who doesn't love you back, then you are neither loving nor respecting yourself. So in that case, your motto doesn't apply or work.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 No love does not produce love. Even if one party loves the other it takes something else for the other side to feel the same feelings for the person.
Yes it is futile to live someone who doesnt love you as sometimes they never will, its hurtful but very true.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 It wouldn't be enough for me, but everyone is different. I would be very disappointed and unfulfilled if I loved someone so much, and knew they didn't feel the same way about me. I think it's much richer when it flows both ways. Don't settle for less! Good luck.
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