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writes: Do I stay in a loveless relationship, when I have so much love and laughter to offer but can't because it is not wanted, as all my partner's energies go straight to our 3 children? I love my kids but feel left out. I try and fail terribly and achieving my full potential in this relationship of 18 years. I've had one affair but still need and think of my partner. I'm 46, I need to be loved like everyone deserves I guess. Please help! Thanks
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reader, bhamner +, writes (14 March 2006):
This is a tough situation. Yes you deserve love. On the other hand your kids deserve a father. You must struggle with your own desire of happiness and your commitment to your kids. Think of them first, and do what you think is best for them. In the end, only you can decide what is the right decision. I hope for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2006): Pehaps she has forgotten how devote time to being a wife and uses it all up on the kids. This erodes relationships and has obviously left you feeling alone. The trouble is if you let it carry on you will eventually decide to find love elsewhere and then you will hurt everyone including you.If there is this problem ,tell her.You could leave her, have another affair or just become more lonely. the chances are, she's lonely too. Whatever you feel she probably feels something similar but has just become used to the kids filling the gaps.Talk to a counsellor perhaps. They can some times help you with coping strategies and with someone to talk to you may find reasons for the frame of mind you are in. Just don't ignore it. One painful conversation with your wife may remind both of you why you chose to be together in the first place. Silence will build that wall. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2006): If you feeling unloved you need to speak to your partner. your focusing all you time on the kids and enegry on the kids you need to take a time out. take the kids to your mothers or hire a babysitter just spend the day/evening together.
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