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writes: I am still in love with my first true love and real/serious relationship! We were together for 5 years and during our battle of money, his drug abuse, and love he left me outside of work and never picked me up. When I got home, all of his things were gone and he was gone too. No letter or call for two weeks. Finally he called and apologized and said he couldn't tell me, otherwise he would have never left. The reason he left was to get better and make more money. He promised to come and get me in due time. It has been 2 years and we are no longer together. We still see each other now and then. I am in a serious relationship of 9 months with my current boyfriend. We live together and share a vehicle, which is his. It took awhile for us to work out. We both have haunting pasts of horrible breakups. My current boyf. loves me and I know this. I love him also, but I still want my ex. so much. He lives in Lousianna and I live in Florida. We had the biggest and greatest plans but in a split second they where all gone. Just a 3 months ago I had the chance to leave my boyf. and run away to my ex. I chose not to because I can't leave like my ex. did, and I am afraid that it could happen again. I really love my boyf. and still love my ex. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2006): I understand that it must be really hard for you. First loves can never be forgotten..But it seems to me that things with your current bf are going well, so why would you leave? Let me ask you something else, Is your ex willing to move down to Florida with you, or would you have to move up there for him? What exactly has he told you that makes you want to go back to him? If he really wants you back he's going to have to do more than just ask you once. What your ex did was terrible, and I'm sorry you had to go through that, but maybe he did need to clean up his life and felt that he might hurt you more if he took you along for the ride but this doesn't excuse what he did. If you have no serious complaints about your current bf than don't leave him, because if you get back with your ex and it doesn't work out you will have lost a good guy. Don't hurt him like you were once hurt. If your ex feels that he's doing better and feels he wants to be with you again he better show it! Don't run to him just becuz he mentioned it once. Show him that you're worth more, i hope i helped, Good Luck and keep us posted! :)
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (1 February 2006):
 Your ex did a terrible thing to you by just leaving you in the lurch like that! How do you know that he wont do something like that again? He probably would too, if he
had another chance...
This kind of behaviour is inexcusable... and his excuse for his actions is downright laughable! You must not even entertain the thought of goung back to him... how could you even still have feelings for the creep?
You are on a good footing with your present boyfriend, be grateful for the relationship you guys have together, you have managed to start a new life after the pain your ex caused you, dont give him another chance to hurt you again.
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