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writes:He makes me smile, laugh, and love my life even when I'm down. He is different than the others I've dated. My only concern is if I'm too young to be in love with him. To start off I'm 17 and he is 20. I knew even before we started dating it was going to be serious. He tells me he loves me so much and I'm the love of his life, he's stopped looking ever since he found me. I'm just afraid we're rushing it, we've been dating for about 5 months now. Time goes by so quickly when I'm with him and I always want to see him, and he always wants to see me. My parents like him but again are afraid of young love, or as they call it "puppy love". Talking to them makes me feel like its just a big joke. Am I in love? is the question I'm always asking myself. Is 17 too young to be in love with someone and to be like he is the one? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): i think that what everyone else has said is really great, but if i were you i'd just have fun. If you find that you end up falling desparately in love with him then that's brilliant, but if your not sure then enjoy what you have and see what comes of it. Only you know how you feel and even if what other people say makes you query your feelings they are still your feelings and nobody can tell you whats real or not. Anyway love is only a word- it's a label that doesnt mean anything without feelings to back it up- you can chose yourself what it represents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): What is love? we all have our own way of defining what it is... Love has a way of surprising the best of us at different times, with different lovers and so on...
Right now it sounds like you are both in love, so go with it, what is meant to be will be... as you both grow individually and as a couple you will also develop a greater sense of what you both want and where the relationship is heading...
personally i think we have more than just one love in a life time, we meet so many people and fall in love with different traits etc, that to find 'one' person to fit the right criteria is next to impossible...
so my greatest advice for you is -
* dont think about it to much - you'll go insane.
* we can only learn from our mistakes/triumphs - your parents dont want to see you get hurt but its your decision and they need to let you run with it and be there for you if it ends badly...
* enjoy your time now! - we never know when it could end.
good luck, wish you all the best xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Be careful! Older guys always want something be it sex, money, or side action, you may love him but HE may just be using you
doesn't matter if you've been together for 6months or even years people will use you then get tired and leave
What ever you do DONT give you life up what I mean is if you in highschool and let's say you get accepted out of state and he says he doesn't want you to go. You go and take the oppertunity if he truly LOVES you he won't get the way
Trust me I've used girls for money and sex it's horrible but this can be a possibility
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reader, yeah yeah(: +, writes (20 March 2010):
your never too young to fall in love! i remember the first guy i fell in love with..it was in like 7th grade! so i don't think that you are to young! you shouldn't feel like your rushing it because when i or anyone else thinks about it as long as your not talking about marrage or anything than your not really rushing it! so i dont think you should worry about it as long as you guys are happy together and he can make you feel special then that's good!! i think you guys will be cute together!(:
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Accountable is pretty right on. It's love. Just enjoy the heck out of it the way it is. Don't try rush it. Just go with it. You sound as if you know your boundaries. Just take it day by day and love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): You're not too young at all, i was 16 when i met my boyfriend and he was 21. I was madly in love with him and still am, we're planning on getting engaged.
I'm 17 now and he's 22. You should try not to rush into things though, it's what I did and wished I enjoyed the early moments way more and took things slower.
I'd say you were in love this guy, just make sure he loves you back and is a decent guy! Have fun!
All the best.
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Might be too young to call him "the one" - I personally don't believe in soul mates so can't comment on that one! But you're not too young to be in love. I was 16 when I met my 20 year old, and can confidently tell you I was, and am still, in love with him. My parents were a little concerned about the age gap too - just prove to them that you are being sensible and responsible. Young love is still a kind of love, don't let people belittle it - only you know what you're really feeling. :)
I agree though, there is no need to rush things. Just enjoy things as they are, dont worry about the future or anything just yet :)
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