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writes: Ok. I have a problem. I am SOO madly and deeply in love with two people. One is an old teacher of mine who moved to NC but I still keep in contact with him and the other is this boy a year younger then me. I wanna tell the younger boy that I like him but can't think of a good way to do it and don't wanna ruin our friendship if he doesn't feel the same way. The teacher that moved to NC is the main problem. He never knew how I felt and NEVER will. It's just that when ever I hear love songs on, I think of him and how much I miss him and I start to tear up. I don't want a relationship with him, I just like to admire him from afar but I DO love him. I just wanted either an easy way to let the boy know I like him without ruining the friendship and/or how to just get over my old teacher. I just, can't put what I feel into words what I feel. But when I think about him, it's not a breaking, it's a strong yearning in my heart just to see him, hear his voice. I just need a little advice. Thanks ahead of time and I CAN'T wait to hear all of your guys' great advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Just ask the young guy out bowling or something.
With your teacher, it's more complicated, you LOVE him but DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP with him, so in other words, don't tell him! If you say you love him he'll think you want to be in a relationship with him!
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (11 November 2008):
 Your feelings for the teacher will pass eventually! I remember as a kid always being in love with a teacher or some older man though out my life. That is a part of being human. I can promise you that when you are an adult you won't even remember this man! Its true!
Just get used to the fact that during your life you are going to beleive you are madly in love with many men and boys. But one day you will be ready for your real love.
This is a human longing that is unavoidable. Don't worry, it will pass eventually. But it is very difficult while he is in your thoughts.
Humans crave affection. Perhaps your father is distant or not in your life? Anyhow, there is no way to make yourself forget at the moment. Time will take care of this eventually. We have all been where you are. Even if that doesn't make you feel better, just know that what you are feeling is part of life.
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reader, wickyricky  +, writes (11 November 2008):
hey well to start off the word love is a very power fully word so becarefull when u say it well to be honest the teacher is in NC so move on yes it will be hard but lets face it you aint going to get him back so just let the younger fella you like him when you do please take thing slowly becase he a friend just say to him that u want a relationship and that u want to take it slowly but no matter what u dont want to fall out weather you stay as a couple or not ..so googd luck and let me no what happens
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