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writes: Hey, i have a HUGE problem. I live in south america, and my boyfriend live sin england. we have been tgether for a year now. we love eachother we do. and he has propose dto me, but we are only so young! 17. and i want that, cause i like the saftey it brings, i know ill get married and all that and i want him. But unfortunatly, I kissed my ex boyfreind (who is a jerk) but i still like it cuase its adventurous. and i like that. and there is this other kid who likes me but wint sya anything cause he respects my boyfreind.I cant brak u with him because it would break his heart. what can I do???
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reader, JTalbott  +, writes (31 May 2008):
 Actually, yes you can and should break up with someone who is not a right fit for you; regardless of how it causes the other person to feel.
Even at 16-17, love is an adult game and as adults we are each responsible for our own feelings. After a breakup, you take care of yourself and the other person and takes care of themselves. It sounds a little cold, but it is by far the best way to live.
With time we all discover by trial and error who we are incompatible with and we avoid getting ourselves into relationships doomed to failure.
Well... at least some of the time we do.
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