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writes: I've been in a relationship a while with a girl, I stopped giving advice and visiting dear cupid incase it freaked her out, but now I need help.With my new girl Claire, there just isnt a spark. We kiss, and it's good, we hug, and mess about, but I've had more fun with others, and i thought that it was a bit silly.I went and saw my friend Johnny, and his girl, my ex, just coz it had been ages, and we all got a bit drunk. I can handle my drink, we were doing shots, but Johnny passes out, and its just me and my ex.Trying to avoid anything other than a drunken stuper, and some random witless conversation, I look up and shes just staring at me. She made a move on me, she kissed me, and I kinda tried to pull away. I couldnt. It felt so right, the spark was there. It got out of control way to fast, the next thing i know, we were sleeping together.I've had sex and I've made love, but this was the best I can even think of, I had never been with her before, and I always regretted it.She was my first ever proper girlfriend, and I regret losing my virginity someone else, we were so close, but i freaked out and pulled away. When I realised how much I really cared for her, it was to late. She had my friend. I dont know what to do. I have really lost my way.Please. Please help me.GoG
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): Hey there,
I went to visit my little girl last week who lives with her mother, my ex fiance. We split up 2 years ago but fortunately never had any problem with access.
In that 2 years she has met someone else and had another baby and i have been in a long term relationship myself.
Anyway all of her family were round and we were watching tv and eventually everyone went to bed except us two. We'd had a bit to drink but not a lot and we were talking and laughing and having a great time.
Then she put her arm around me and pulled us together and i couldn't stop her, I didn't want to. We ended up making love till the early hours of the morning and it was the best ever. It all felt so right and so natural, the spark was definitely there and it was like we had never been apart. I remembered all the moves to arouse her, where to touch her, the way she breathed, and the noises she made all brought everything back and it just felt so right.
I know how you feel. I can't stop thinking about her now and i want her but i cannot take on another mans child nor can i break my current partners' heart. I've been there myself and it hurts and i don't want to hurt anyone but i love my ex and there will always be something special between us, i just wish i could turn back the clock 2 or 3 years to make sure we never split up.
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (3 April 2006):
 First of all why are you with clair?It's unfair to keep the relationship between you going if their is no spark.Tell her how you feel and explain your situation.Also
you slept with your freinds girfreind.Tell him as he would proberly get told anyway.You got youself into this mess so get yourself out.Good luk
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (3 April 2006):
 Why have you stayed with Claire if there is no spark?
Are you happy in that relationship? Do you think she is the girl for you? Is that lack of spark a major issue in the relationship?
I really think that you need to first of all, really consider why you are with Claire because it seems that you are not with her for the right reasons and perhaps the relationship doesn't have a future, which lead you to your ex.
Not that I am condoning sleeping with your ex. Cheating is NEVER acceptable and I feel very sorry for Claire that you did this to her.
But I think that you seriously need to consider how you feel about Claire and I think that she would rather have the relationship end than you cheat on her with someone who gives you that sexual spark that you so obviously need.
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