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writes:i found animal porn on my bf computer, i feel so sick and i don't know what to do or say to him about it? i can't even look him in the eye anymore, i just don't know what to do about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry but its just sooo sick i don't think ill ever be able to be intimate with him again
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2006): Don't freak out!!! It's probably not something he's into sexually...more so just a curiosity. I've checked the stff out myself, and so has every guy friend I have.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (5 April 2006):
 Tell him straight up. "Hey, I found this on your computer, I'm confused by it, what is the deal? Why do you have it? Why do you like it?"
I don't think there is any other way to approach it but saying "I found this - please explain to me why you have it".
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPlease, can anyone give me some advice on how to approuch him about this?
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (3 April 2006):
I'm sorry to hear that. I was really hoping for your sake that this was just some one off thing that some mate had sent him.
I'm especially sorry to hear that this is not the first time you have gone through the whole porn issue with your partner.
You sound pretty tolerant, all things considered, but I can understand how this has really upset you.
It is hard for us girls to understand why guys like porn so much and why if it hurts us, they continue to do it. I can sorta understand the guys point of view that it has nothing to do with love or relationships, its just a guy thing, a release and we find it difficult to understand.
What annoys me about your situation is that he has put you in a situation where you don't feel comfortable talking to him because you are scared of how he will react (ie lying to you) and that doesn't sound like a very healthy sort of relationship. You shouldn't be afraid to talk to your partner about a part of your relationship.
The fact that this porn is more disturbing than other types of porn is also a concern for you.
I think that it needs to be talked about and I would suggest some counselling for the both of you to discuss the relationship because there are issues there.
I think also you need to consider how you really feel about this man and how his actions impact on you and your self esteem and the relationship.
Good luck. I'm sorry if I haven't been a lot of help. Take care and do what is best for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry i should have added what amount there was, i found about 10 picturs of young teen girls having sex with animals, this was not sent via email as i found by his history he had downloaded them via a google search, i don;t know how to talk to him, porn has been a problem in the past, i confronted him about it, told him i disliked it being in our home and he started lying to me about it , i just don;t know what to say or do.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (3 April 2006):
It does depend. Ie. Was it just something someone from his work or friendship group emailed him as a joke? Or was it files upon files of it that he had spent a lot of time downloading?
If it was just something funny that someone sent him, I wouldn't worry too much. If it is the later, I think that you need to talk to him and find out why he has it. Is is something he finds amusing or something he finds a turn on? Why did he download and store it?
Once you have had a conversation with him about it, I think you will be in a better situation to be able to decide what you want to do with it.
Let us know after you have spoken to him if you need more advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice, sorry i should have added how much there was, there was about 10 pictures, this was not sent by email i checked he downloaded it off google
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reader, GodofGraphics +, writes (3 April 2006):
 I dont want to really get into this, but it depends on the amount.
One stupid video could just be a prank by a friend, or something silly someone sent him.
If there is a large amount, I guess i dont know. I've never been a porn guy, and I think animal porn is too far. You need to confront him about it, its the only way you'll understand his side of the story.
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