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writes:I lost my virginity last year (early november 2007 when I was 13 1/2) to a guy who I had been hanging out with and was really close to for about 4 months. We never dated, just hung out a lot(he sort of led me on). My mom knew him and let him come over pretty much whenever. Well, i've grown up in a very great environment with more than amazing parents to guide me through my years. The guy was 16 almost 17 when this happened, and we never really hung out after this. He came over really late one night and I had sex with him in my bed, with my mom in the room next to mine(which makes me even more disappointed in myself). Then, on New Years of this year, I got drunk for the first time at a party. Never before or after that. I am still so disappointed in myself. I'm extremely(more than extremely) close to my mom, but I don't know whether I should tell her about these 2 mistakes that happened or not. They constantly bug me, and I tell my mom EVERYTHING, so it's weird not telling her about it or having someone to talk to about it, since she's my best friend. I just don't want her to look at me different. I'm really afraid of that. I'm still questioning whether to tell her or not. What's your opinion on this? Also, do you think she'll look at me different?
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 The great thing about mums is that they love you unconditionally, no matter how much of a scalliwag you might have been.
If you are really stressing about these things, it's best to talk to her about it. It's always good to be able to talk things out, especially if it's with someone who knows you and cares about you and can offer some sound advice.
From what you've said, it seems like you and your mum have a great relationship, and that's a good thing to have. She might be a bit disappointed, but that's natural - after all, you're her baby and she wants to look after you.
She'll probably take it better than you think, and I doubt she'll look at you any differently. She's not one of your friends who might be freaked out by something like this - she's your mum, and part of her will always see you as her little girl.
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reader, girlygirl2thextreme3 +, writes (7 July 2008):
 If you feel guilty and you just feel the need to tell your mom and you both are very close, I think you should tell her. Although if you have a dad, I'm not so sure. Dads are obviously very protective. Hmmm...I personally think you should tell her, she'll understand everything if she's your best friend. Hope I helped and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): If you are that close to your mother you should defiantly sit down and have a talk with, especially if it bugging you. Trust me you will feel better that you got it out in the open. You don't want to have something this big on your shoulders for very long. And your mother won't look at you any different she will just be glad that you were honest with her.
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