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writes:I have a problem I don't think I'm In love with my boyfriend and I'm prego and also has no sex drive at all.I just found out I'm two months preggers happy but scard. Three months ago I went on two crusies with my family and sadly couldn't bring my boyfriend cuz we planed it two years ago a year before we met. The trip was great but I couldn't talk to the bf alot cuz they charged extra on my phone. I came back so happy to see him but for some reason he got on my nerves and it wasnt like this before so i didnt see him as much but that made him clingy when i did see him and the we just started fighting more cuz hes got to have everything like his way and needs too much attntion and the more he wants the less i want to be around him and cuz he we found out were expecting he wants to be around more so help please
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (1 December 2010):
 Don't try to stay with him for the sake of your baby. Thats dumb. People who do that raise children in the environment of hate and resentment, so don't do that. stay with him because you love him.
He is bound to be a little clingy, you just went on two cruises without him and that had to be quite some time that you two spent apart.
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reader, purpledime +, writes (29 November 2010):
purpledime is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyah im hoping it is my hormones but cuz he so clingy it pushes me away cuz he needs to be the center and i also been having supections that hes bipolar
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. You are pregnant with his child now so you need to do all you can to try and stay with him so you can be a family for this baby.
So if you are feeling different, or he is being too clingy - then tell him. Communication is key in relationships and you two will need to learn to get very good at this in order to be good parents and overcome the stress of having a child.
Keep in mind that you are pregnant so your hormones will be all over the place at the moment and will continue to be up and down a lot, so you will of course feel differently towards your boyfriend but try and remember it is your hormones that are partially responsible for how you are feeling right now.
So just try and talk to him, tell him how you are feeling and try and work together to come to a compromise where he gets to see you, but you still get your own space. Learning to talk to each other and communicate without arguing will be crucial for being successful at raising a child - so get practicing now!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (29 November 2010):
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I also just found out I'm expecting, I can't wait.
It could be the hormone changes in your body, that might be why you suddenly want nothing to do with him if it was all of a sudden. I would look into that.
If you just don't want to be around him right now, at all, then tell him that. Tell him that you need some space right now and he should understand that.
It's understandable that he wants to be around more because you are pregnant, which is pretty cool, because most guys our age will just run and not look back.
I think you should reevaluate your relationship. Did you fall out of love with him really? Or is your body messing with you? Or is his clingy and needy ways, is that what is driving you away? There can't be two babies.
I hope this helps you hun. Good luck! And let me know how everything goes.
Is this your first child?
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