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writes:Recently I have found that my best friend and one of my other friends have been spending loads more time together and are becoming better friends than I am with them, I'm finding that I also just don't get on with them as well as i used to, we haven't fallen out or anything, I just don't seem to find the same things funny as them anymore and tend to never really share their opinion either (and they always seem to agree with each other) I think they have realised this too and therefore do a lot of things without me now, should I try and rebuild our friendship back to what it used to be by spending more time with them? or have we just grown up and changed and it's time to move on and become friends with different people?what do you think about this and what would you do?thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Reflection: Since my childhood, I've gone through three major groups of friends. From grade 6 (1989) to grade 10 (1993), then from grade 10 (1994) to beyond high school (2001) and finally late 2000 and onwards.
Through these friendships, I have one childhood friend I've been friends with since 1987. This summer will make it 22 years. He and I have changed quite a bit over the last two decades and even had a period in which we didn't see each other due to differences in our personalities at the time.
As Ms. Cat had mentioned, each person will continuously define, redefine and refine their own series of interests and ways of expression. How they adjust and upgrade themselves over time will dictate how they connect with you. In time, you may just find that some may no longer connect with you and others connect with you with more ease.
This is the same with intimate and working relationships.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (2 March 2009):
 You are growing up and you (and your friends) are finding new things of interest.
You will find and make new friends now, and you will continue to find and make new friends in many years to come.
I never thought I'd be having friends with so many different interests when I was your age. I used to hang out with many friends at high school, but there was only one girl that I wanted to take the bus together to go home. I have no idea where she is now ... since I have not been in touch with her since college.
You will be glad that you will have many friends with many different interests throughout your life :-)
Cat
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