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writes:I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21, we've been going out for over 4 months and we are both still virgins. Tomorrow we've decided to go all the way but I'm scared it will hurt and that I won't know what to do can anyone help me please. I love him and it feels right, I'm just scared.. please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): If it hurts you, then you're with the majority of first timers! However the more nervous you get, the tenser you'll be, and the more it will hurt, so relax and don't panic! Go SLOWLEEE, and use lube so there's not friction. Don't rush in - make sure you are aroused and your body is prepared. And the more you do it over time, the more you will enjoy it!
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (11 November 2008):
 Take it slowly really. It can hurt, well at least mine did, and be prepared for the bleeding. Perhaps use something to protect the sheets or mum and dad will find out!!!!!!!! Good luck, xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): honestly, the first time i did it.. it hurt so bad he had to take it out. if losing your virginity to the person you love is what you want then go for it! it's guna take alot of effort and your guna have to suck up the pain. just keep on doing it every so often and it won't hurt anymore. and don't worry about being nervous, i'm sure he is too. everyone is there first time!
i wish you the best of luck.
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-Sarah Cartrette.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): just relax....make sure that he goes slow and forplay is very important so let him finger you and go down on you for a little whie just to get you going.....guys are usuly ready to jump right in but ask him if there is anything you can do to make hime feel comftorbal as well.
oh and please please use protection.
hope this helps and good luck xoxoxo
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reader, Jigsaw_8 +, writes (11 November 2008):
Just take it slow. be calm. set the mood. it didn't hurt at all for me, but everyone is different, as long as you prepare yourself for it, a good session of foreplay is always a plus to preparing and getting in the mood.
If you feel you are not well lubricated naturally, then a bit of help from KY jelly may come in handy, not saying you should use it, just be sure it is on hand for in case you do. Try not to worry too much about it.
If it feels right then carry on, but if you decide you are not ready when the time comes, then say you need more time. Don't feel pressured into it, that would make it worse during and after.
Good luck though, i'm sure everything will go well. xx
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (11 November 2008):
 well it will hurt the first time, but what can you do. its basically the choice between doing it or not. you could ask him to go fast the first time, and get it over with. i am not sure what else there is to do, it is a common fact it will hurt the first time. but he can maybe comfort you by taking ur mind off it or something. just remember the pain wont last for ever it will be over in a few minutes. take care
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