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writes:My husband has recently divorced me leaving me with two children to bring up. He currently still pays the mortgage and the bills but won't see any of us or answer any texts or anything. He left me for another woman after having had numerous affairs. I am still really upset and angry but he feels no remorse or guilt and is happy in his new life. He has no conscience or empathy for anyone other than himself and if anyone is weak or vunerable he says tough shit get on with life. The children say life is so much nicer without him and really never refer to him or mention him at all but even though he was a nasty bit of work I still miss him. We were married fifteen years. I have been cut off completely by him and although I cope quite well with the children and our routines, I still miss him. I shouldn't as he used to call me terrible names, behaved like an alley cat and wanted to be out smoking and drinking everynight. The divorce was terribly bitter with untruths told and lies said in court. I want to know even with his new life if he thinks about us at all other than as a drain on his resources. I kept a beautiful home, earned a good income buying him new cars, boats etc and enabled him to build his career so he is now a very successful man and I really want to know if he would ever remember that in quiet moments or not care at all because he is so busy having fun with his latest girlfriend..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Wow, the best thing that could happen to you just did. He's gone. Sorry to say, but I don't think you know what a real love relationship is, but will soon discover/experience it with someone new. When you're ready. Time will fade your fond? memories of him, then you will Really see him for the man he is. Heartless-to have nothing to do with his children. (although at this time, the children will do better without his influence)
To help you not repeat this tragic mistake, please remember you seemed to be 'mothering' him, or spoiling/giving into his wants to earn his love.
You ARE deserving of Real Love! A man that Freely gives his love to you, and treats a marriage as an equal partnership. Giving and receiving. A 'helpmeet' for each other, and to share lifes precious moments.
This is my dream for You!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Why did I never marry someone like you? I can cope with the car I've got, but I'd love to have a new boat!
He obviously took you for a fool and took advantage of your good nature (come to think of it, a new car would be nice) and unless he's a completely cold-hearted plonker (for want of a better word) he'll be thinking about the kids now and then, but you'll probably become an ever distant memory, especially if the divorce was a bitter one. If there were any happy memories for him he might take his mind back to them, but only briefly unless he's jumped from the frying pan into the fire and wishes he could turn the clock back, but somehow I doubt it.
The fact that the kids are happier now says a great deal. You should be too, and not hankering after this man who treated you so badly.
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