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*ngelHeartx
writes:Recently I've been having trouble with someone I met online who I was meant to meet up with soon to get closer/get to know better. Mind you this little relationship spark is long distance, and anyone who has negative responses towards "online dating" please don't bother answering my question as I'd prefer to have replies from people who can relate even the tinyest to this situation.He changed quite a while ago towards me...I don't really understand why. First it was being ignored...then the "I love you xoxox" words stopped...then not bothering to contact me for a few days on end. Of course I've argued with him about everything happening at the time but I never seem to get the answer I quite want out of him. Then it all went downhill completely when he started college. He promised me long ago that he would never change towards me, and promised to never get me upset and everything would be great when we finally got to meet up (after Christmas this year was supposed to be the date, after working so hard to get the money for travel etc). That's when I was treated like an invisible object. He rarely called me, emailed me, and flat out treated me like any other friend of his, ending his sentences in "cya later or bye", no sweetness or anything. Then to calm me down (this wasn't really calming me down it made me feel horrible and crushed inside), he told me to "bare with him" and said how there are a lot of hot girls at his college who like to hang out with him and his dorm mates. The first thing that went through my head was the nerve of him ever saying such a thing to me,to talk about not just girls, "hot" girls right in front of me and not having the decency to not say it in front of someone he's supposed to love? Oh I went ballistic then, and ever since I exploded he's not spoken to me, and I'm very deeply deeply heartbroken. With such bad trust issues due to my past with fake friends and such, I have no clue what to do now. I had the upmost faith in this guy, planned to meet him soon after Christmas, and this is what happened...can anyone give me some good advice? I feel drained of all emotions...I continously get hurt by people who make out they "care for me" and it never stops.
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reader, AngelHeartx +, writes (23 November 2008):
AngelHeartx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAww thank you everyone! I feel I now know what to do, it will be hard but I need to get my heart back together again somehow. ^_^
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reader, superbunny  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Your online relationship will be an exceptionally good reflection of how your real one will be.I met my boyfriend online and he was lovely on the internet and even better in real life!!xx
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reader, AngelHeartx +, writes (22 November 2008):
AngelHeartx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI forgot to mention this online relationship has been going on for around 2 years now. Quite a while...and mind you I've never been in a relationship before.
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reader, superbunny +, writes (22 November 2008):
Sweetie, I'd just let him go. If you allow him to mess you about in the early days, how can you expect it to change in the later ones?
If it's long distance you will need to trust him so so much, honey, and I think that's already been destroyed. :(
Hope it all works out for you.
xx
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