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30-35,
*oeismeanyou
writes:It's been about 4 or 5 weeks since I've spoken or even remotely heard from my boyfriend. About this time last month he asked me to pay his phone bill. I politely declined because I thought it was too early in the relationship to be asking to pay one another's bills (we only dated for less than a week). So now a month later I haven't heard from him. I don't har him as a friend on Facebook and he hasn't even called me from someone else's phone. What should I do? Does this make me single? I'm pretty upset.
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reader, woeismeanyou +, writes (3 April 2014):
woeismeanyou is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for the advice. I'm over it and am no longer upset. If it were a relationship, he would have at least borrowed someone's phone just to tell me that he was alright and to keep me updated on what's happening. But he didn't. Oh well, there's plenty of fish on the sea.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (3 April 2014):
 As the others have said, one week of dating is hardly a relationship.
As a guide, I'd say if you haven't heard from a boyfriend (or even someone you've recently started dating) for two weeks then it's over and I wouldn't contact them again after that.
Glad to hear you didn't pay his phone bill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2014): I'm glad you didn't pay his phone bill, at least you have some sense. He wasn't your boyfriend and had no intention to be. Most people would date for 2-3 months before considering it to be a relationship and bf/gf. Good riddance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2014): Get past being upset. He's got a lot of nerve. Real men don't ask their girlfriends to pay their bills. Then diss them if they don't.
This is a no-brainer. You sure as heck are single!
It's not his decision to make. It's your call.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (2 April 2014):
 Try not to be upset. Yes, you're single but it's better to be single than have a moocher for a boyfriend. It's not about you, it's about him being a silly mooch. You did the right thing in not giving him any money. Take care.
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reader, methuselah +, writes (2 April 2014):
Hi,
Yes, you are single. One week was not a relationship/dating. He wanted to get you to pay the phone bill and when you declined, he left. He probably would have left anyway after you had paid the bill. Don't worry, he was not a 'nice' person and you are better off without.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 April 2014):
 You are single. You dated for a week, that doesn't even count as a relationship. I call the bare minimum to be at least two weeks, official and exclusive that is. Anything else is a fling.
Oh, and most people would require about two months. My two week rule is supposedly very little by everyone else's standards. So when I don't even call this a relationship, trust me, then it isn't one.
One week of dating and you don't hear from him, means you are single. Yes, it stinks, but at least it is better you figure out now what a douche he is, rather than two months in when you've had sex and you find out he stole money from your purse the morning after..
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 April 2014):
I'm afraid you are. But, let's face it, this guy was after your money, not you. As upset as you may be, I think it's for the best. The guy was only wanting you to pay a bill, I don't think he wanted anything else. Best to move on.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (2 April 2014):
 You were not in a relationship in the first place.
He was trying to take advantage of you. Consider yourself lucky, you didn't give him any money.
ps As a guy I have never asked a girlfriend for money..well I have.... But it was because my pay was a day late, and it was for $20 that I had given her the day before...It was for lunch and she came with and we had a cheap lunch together. It was pretty fun lol.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 April 2014):
 So you dated less then a week, call still call him BF after not hearing from him for 4/5 weeks?
Yes, I would say you are most definitely single. Why even worry about this guy? All he wanted was someone to pay his phone bill and since you didn't he moved on.
Why does that make you up set? You were bf/gf for a week!
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