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writes:Long story short- we met a few months before college. Everything seemed perfect, until it was time to leave. We've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now. Finding a good time to visit eachother is rare. Half of the time plans don't work out and I become disappointed. Lately, I've been really jealous of couples that go to the same school or even live in the same area. Not only that, but it'll be another two years before we'll be living in the same city. Is all of my disappointment really worth waiting another two years? Or should we let go and have fate decide if we should be together two years from now?
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (30 January 2010):
 LDRs are very difficult to maintain - have to have complete trust with one another and definitely the times you mentioned about feeling jealous seeing couples together. But if you love this man so much and can't stop thinking about him - and he is the same way with you - then try to work it out. Why are you apart? College? If that's the case, then you're halfway there already! Then after you both graduate, you can try to figure out how to work in the same city and be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Thank you both for your help- you said some things I really need to consider.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): I would let it go. I was in a long distance relationship for a long time. You don't know the person until you can fully be together on a normal routine. Either you or him should move closer. How old are you? You don't want to waste too much time on what may be.... find what makes you happy now!!
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reader, visione +, writes (29 January 2010):
 You obviously aren't happy with how things are, how does she feel? Are you satisfied with your relationship, can YOU see this continuing for another 2 years? LDRs are very difficult to maintain and require a lot of work from both sides, it's pretty amazing you have lasted 2 years already. If you both want it to continue, and you both continue to having feelings for each other... What is there to lose?
LDRs aren't for everyone though, if you really can't stand keeping it up anymore, you should stop it. Don't stay in it if you don't think it will work. But if you believe in it, stay strong!
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