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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years now. Last year I went to college and she stayed back home in high school which was very tough, but we managed to get through it. Right now we are both getting ready to go to college, but we have gone through a rough patch recently. She says she was so miserable when I was at college last year that she doesn't know if she will be able to do it again if we're not truly happy when we're together. We were able to fix most things, but my girlfriend says she's not "happy". We both love each other and aren't going to break up but are contemplating separating for a little bit. My girlfriend says it's not me, but just rather she would be ecstatic when I was coming over to see her, but now it just seems routine and doesn't feel anything since we do almost everyday. Even when i kiss her and try to have sex she isn't in the mood to do anything and she doesn't know why. How should I handle this? Is a short term separation a good thing if we're both heading off to college in a week.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 August 2011):
 I think that taking a break while you are both away at different colleges sounds like a great idea. Sadly very few young romances last long enough to be lifetime commitments...
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (20 August 2011):
 I would think from what you have described that you should put a moratorium on dating each other. You are both very young and it hardly seems fair to both of you to continue with something that isn't working or that is making either of you unhappy. I can't imagine that being miserable all the time at college is good for your grades either. I think college should be a time to explore what it is you want out of life and that you should enjoy your time at school. As a parent - I would suggest calling it off and making a promise to see each other after the school year is over; then see how you feel next spring. :^) Good luck.
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