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writes:I've been with my boyfriend 2 1/2 months and he's 100% different to any other relationship I've ever had. From day one we met, we got on amazingly, we both felt like we'd known each other years but that massive spark of attraction was there, and still is just as strongly. We've had the odd tiff or row, which has only strengthened us.I see him 6 nights out of 7, we both share an interest in motorbikes and rarely run out of things to say to each other, but when we do, it's a comfortable silence. Basically, we're really in a loved up honeymoon stage, which for me is fantastic because I have only ever felt this way about one previous boyfriend, and have felt something lacking on relationships that followed that one as I never felt like that about any other boyfriends, until now.He brought up the idea of me moving in with him. We have both lived with long term partners and aren't naive about the idea and see it from a realistic point of view. He lives with his parents after moving out of his ex's place nearly a year ago. I live with my parents in exactly the same situation. I get on with his parents possibly better than my own, so living with them wouldn't be a hardship. The view was I would live with him for a few months so we could test the water living together and save some money to rent a house of our own, which we could both well afford.Thing is, a lot of my friends have really reacted strongly against me doing this, saying it will ruin the relationship and take the spark out of it. They say it's too soon to live together. I know it's a different kettle of fish living with someone.Any opinions?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 You say that you're in this loved up honeymoon stage... why not enjoy it!?? Moving in together is a really difficult move to make, because then you are no longer "dating" and some of the mystery, excitement and anticipation is gone. I agree with your friends - I think it will take the spark out of the relationship, and while it may not get ruined, it certainly will have a better chance of being ruined. You'll be putting a lot of pressure on your relationship, a relationship that is so new and fresh that it might break under that pressure. You haven't built a solid enough foundation.
Enjoy the thrill you get from being with him. There's no need to rush everything. If you guys have such a great connection, don't ruin a good thing by pushing yourselves faster than you need to go. Hey - maybe he's "the one", and you'll end up living together for the rest of your life!
Slow down. I think you're both caught up in how great this relationship is. Good luck, sweetness!!
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