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writes:Im 13, currently in school (obviously) and i really like a friend of mine (same age), although i dont know if she likes me as much as i like her. She smiles when she greets me, she helps me alot, but she also yells at me and gets angry at me for no reason. Im one of those "nerdy" ppl, sensitive, yet sometimes crazy. I want to tell her, but not get freaked out or get it spread throughout the school, can someone tell me how to tell her in a way that wont lead to a disaster? =SP.s her B'day is coming up... lead to an opening??? Reply to this Question
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reader, WiccanWonder  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 lol!Dont we know itRealationships are fusterating! just ask me or dreamingz we know all about how hard having crushes can be...Sorry if im a bit late.But maybe you could write something along the lines ofDear _____________Hope you have a good birthday.From ____________ xx*****************************The standared stuffand then slip a note in sayingI really like you.just something simple, and then she will probs understand.Just giving a girl something simple like a hand made card will really make her think about you. Also, talk to her a lot in lessonsHope this helps my little cherry pie (Sorry i sometimes call people that!)From Tasha x
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reader, WiccanWonder +, writes (23 April 2008):
Do you sit with her in any lessions?If you do, talk to her then.And if your too shy to ask her face to face, give her a note... =D And as dreamingz said, give her birthday cards, christmas cards etc.!
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reader, nicole5178  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 Tell her that you're happy you met her because she's this great person and you're so lucky to have her as a friend. You could also mention how her laugh and smile always cheer you up, so you're excited to see her everyday....I don't know. I'm the worst card maker ever. But if the school doesn't have any flowers, buy her a single flower. Something either purple or yellow... red and pink are too romantic. And why doesn't she think you like her anymore? Maybe compliment her, or (as I said earlier) hold doors for her and offer to fetch her things, like a bottle of water or coke if you're going to the vending machines. I know this one guy at my school who liked my friend, and he offered to buy her a coke everyday... that's a bit too much, and it ended up costing him like $50 in the end, so don't overly offer. Just let her know you're thinking about her.Take care, N.
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reader, Meh2163 +, writes (10 February 2008):
Meh2163 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, in addition to what i just said, when i actually do get her a card, i dont know what to write in it, i dont want to go on too strongly, or it would be too awkward, but i dont want to be firm, or too light. *sigh*relationships, so frustrating
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reader, Meh2163 +, writes (10 February 2008):
Meh2163 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmmm,1. she hangs on the doorsteps of a building, no where in the school has any flowers2. my friends dont even know about it, if they did, theyd slap me silly, coz they knew i liked her for awhile, i shook them off, if they found out i still like her then... =S also, my friends are ppl 2 years older, they'd think its sad, lolAlthough i think she used to be into me, but since she thinks i dont like her anymore, she stopped complimenting me about stuff, i think im gonna fix myself up before i try for a relationship, coz my image is shocking ^.^
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (10 February 2008):
Pick her a flower on your way to see her. That's the best present idea I can give you. You probably shouldn't spend any money, and if you do, don't spend a lot.Maybe some of her friends like some of your friends more than they like you? In that case, you could just have some of your friends go with you to see her and her friends. That way some of the spotlight is off of you.Good luck with her birthday!
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reader, Meh2163 +, writes (10 February 2008):
Meh2163 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, heres a few extra difficulties for me... shes always with her friends, her friends arent too fond of me, me and her are good friends, i have no problem talking with her and gifting, etc, i catch her spying me out, but same with her bestie, i get a small feeling that she likes me instead =/ lol. I'm great when it comes to socialising, but i sometimes get nervous when i do a little flirts when her friends are right nxt to her, looking really shifty towards me, its just really awkward, even when i say she's cute, they do that look.oh, and i plan on getting her a present, in addition to a card, any ideas?
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reader, Dreamingz +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Yeah give her a b-day card :) She will probably be really flattered that you thought of her, I know I would!
But if your to nervous to ask her, try and make really good friends with her..thats the next best thing isent it?
When I gave the boy who I like a b-day card..I was so nervous! it was unbeliveable! but its best to do it quickly..maybe if you don't want her friends to see it maybe give it to her under the table or quickly slide it to her.
I really hope you get what you wish for :)
-Dreamingz
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (3 February 2008):
I would advise not to ask her out yet. You should start with small gestures, like holding doors for her, asking if she needs help carrying something heavy, or complimenting her outfit/hair/shoes/necklace/smile/anything.
For her birthday, make her a card and tell her all of the wonderful things about her. Basically, ease into this b/c you're a little young to be dating, so if she isn't totally head over heels about you, she'll probably just brush you off and say "My parents won't let me date yet. Sorry." --that's the worst answer possible to "Will you go out with me?"
Don't read too much into her getting mad at you. Girls at that age have a lot of hormonal swings starting. Try not to make her angry, and don't argue back. Apologise sincerely even if you don't think you should. After you're dating, keep doing this for at least a month or two, and remember to pick your fights. Don't argue over trivial things--just let it go. And don't be worried about being a nerd. I think nerds are actually the better type of guy to date b/c they are a bit more serious and they know how to dedicate themselves to something, like studies or people.
Good luck!! Remember, make her a card for her birthday. This is key.
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