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anonymous
writes:hey im new to this and have been down in the dumps for a while now well me and my girlfriend are still together and are in very much in love but we cant see each other because her mom has been talking to her lately about getting out more and having friends and my girlfriend thinks this is the best for her because she never could get out when she was a teenager this is why when my girlfriend was growing up and throughout her teenage years she basically had to be the mother of her down syndrome brother and had to cook clean and take care of her parents also because her dad was drinking and taking pills her mom was in rehab for pills and i was the only one there for her through thick and thin and we have managed to stay together her dad is still mentally abusive to her and she hurts over it and im still the one she turns to for comfort but her mom has been in recovery and just now trying to be a mother again anyways she tells my girlfriend that she should go out have fun right now and try to do the teenage things shes never gotten to do with out worrying if im going to freak out about it because my girl tells me that she wants to be the best wife in this world to me but in order to do so she needs to do the things shes never gotten to do with friends hang out stuff like that she did clarify that shes going to be 120% faithful to me and we are still together and she loves me more than anything shes just worried that if she doesnt get that behind her shes scared that when we are married that she will go on a wild streak and leave me at home while she goes and gets it out of her system she told me that she wants to be able to marry me without saying i regret not having a teenage life and having fun with my friends so far since this has happened we have gotten along better than we ever have and the love is stronger and we have given each other promise rings and she gave me a ring and a necklace with a cross on it that she holds very dear to her they were her grandmothers who she loved very much but today she seemed really down in the dumps about missing me and seemed very aggravated with anything i said and i said hunny whats wrong and she said that she is just stressed out over not seeing me and that her parents dont really want us talking because i could interfere with her getting it out of her system and she doesnt mean to take it out on me is this something i should worry about or is she starting to come to her senses that im the most important thing in her life and she regrets doing this i mean after all i was her first true love we are great when we are together i was there for her when not even her parents were she told me time and time again that im the only one that made her feel like a person instead of a sex toy and that i was the only one that loved her enough to let her go im confused im hurt and im missing her so much shes so beautiful sweet and religious has a supermodel face and body shes everything to me and i hate to imagine life without her shes even told me that she loves me not only boyfriend girlfriend wise but she has true love for me but most of all she has spiritual love for me the kind that no one can take away her parents are putting her under alot of stress and shes never really been able to stand up to them because i dont have a house of my own yet and she doesnt want to be kicked out and have no where to go what do i do is this girl the only girl that really truely loves me enough to want to fully commit to me and wants to take the nessasary steps to do that cause otherwise shes a very straight up person with me and would tell me if she wanted us to be over but we still talk on the phone and usually except for to day we get along so much better and miss each other more she told me this would not only make us stronger but by me loving her enough to let her go means the world to her and she wants to marry me more than ever before and it drove her so much closer to me she cant stand it she tells me she doesnt want anyone else and that she loves me so much she doesnt think any other guy is attractive sexy nothing there just another person to her so someone please help me ive missed work over this because im so depressed i only have about 2 close friends that i talk to about this but because of there jobs we cant hang out very much so im stuck with nothing to do please someone let me know if im just in for another heart ache thanks for listening thanks for caring
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): dude! learn some punctuation.ok, i doubt your girl's gonna be unfaithful after all you've been through, she probs just wants to go out and have a laugh.I think part of the problem is your relationship sounds so serious! ok, relationships do need to be serious, but they need to be carefree as well, spicy, fun, ya know? I dont know how you can make it more fun but just experiement.
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