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*axi89
writes:i've been friends with a girl since october. we were really tight. she used to tell me everything and i was the secretive type who kept people at a distance as i dont like being close to anyone. i started having feelings for her. in late december i threw her a surprise birthday. she was happy and everything. even got this pocketwatch for her birthday. then in late january she figured out i liked. it's been weird since then. she doesnt talk to me the same way like she used to. shes very straight forward and intially when she found out she told me she didnt want to put me in that position and told me not to break the bro code. she spoke to me afterards normally. but since then she's been getting angry at really small things. if another guy friend does it shes fine with that but when i make fun of her in a light hearted way she minds. then she took offence in one of those things and didnt talk to me for a few days. i used to speak to this girl every single day for 4 5 months. then she just started being all formal and shit. when she figured out i liked she says this wont change anything with us and we'll always be buddies. i've sorted out issues with her numerous times. but now she doesnt talk to me at all outside college. she doesnt text call me or shit. unless i do. what i dont get is that things should be awkward for me cos i liked her. hell i loved her. then why should she act this way if she didnt have anything in the first place? and it hurts me now because she barely talks to me alone now...and it just kills me to see things turn out this way.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 April 2013):
 Things changed when she realized you like her more than as a casual friend.
She's making it very clear to you where you sit with her which is a casual friend.
She doesn't initiate with you because she does not want to lead you on or give you the wrong impression.
she responds to you because she's a nice person and sees you as a friend.
She was fine being overly friendly with you as long as she knew you were just friends... once she realized you wanted more... she cut you back so that she wouldn't have to have the "I like you like a brother or a friend only" talk with you.
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reader, R1  +, writes (1 April 2013):
 She doesn't want you to get the wrong idea. Some men hang around for years hoping a girl will like them when in reality it will never happen. She is making sure you don't do this. Also it's kind of weird hanging out with someone you know has feelings for you, maybe this makes her feel uncomfortable. Respect her decision and give her space.
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