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writes:Hey there! Well, I need help. I am in love with my sixth grade math teacher. Now, I know I know you're going to say, "Oh it's just a crush it's just a crush", but I know it's not. This is serious, very serious to the point where I'm obsessed with her and stalking her. I lover her sooooo much nobody has any idea and everytime I talk to her, I get butterflies in my stomach and my heart starts pulpultating and I always say something really stupid. She is just so beautiful. Yes, it is a female. Yes, I do believe I could be a lesbian or could be bi. I have been in love with her for 3 years now and I cannot get over her no matter how hard I try. I know way to much about her. Her husbands name, her middle name, her parents names, her grandmothers names, her husbands parents names, her sister-in-law's name and her husbands name and their kids names, I know her children's names, I know where her kids go to school, I know the day she got married, her address, the company she used to work for, her birthday, everything. I always have sexual fantisies about her and she knows I'm in love with her. My friend e-mailed her and told her, and I don't mind. Somehow, I really believe she has feelings about me because if she knows, why didn't she report it? It has to be because she loves me, too. In sixth grade, I got her a better Christmas present than I gave all the other teachers and on the last day of sixth grade, I started sobbing in her arms. At my school every year for Valentines day, our school sells carnations, and I sent her one. I even write sex stories about her. She gives me the best hugs ever and she's always so warm. I know her whole bus duty schedule and when she has it on Friday's. Please I need help on what to do because I'm in eighth grade and on the last day, it will be a horrible, black day, and I don't want that so please, please help. Thanks!
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reader, Isegrimm  +, writes (2 January 2011):
What´s that therapist nonsense??
As if this was abnormal. Falling for older persons is just normal in Puberty.
Stalking might be not but that aside you should deal with this problem head on because there might be waiting some more of this kind in your future.
To my first love i sent a love letter (y´know that yes, no, maybe kind of thing^^) and instead of her meeting me after school it was her 16 year old brother (i was 8 XD today i´d wipe the walls with him, too bad) i still regretting telling him that i was NOT the one who wrote this letter.
Even if i got beat up i´d still be happier with that than this way.
But i got over it and i didn´t need no Psycho dudes, you can´t really become a strong character in my opinion if you rely on others to that extend.
Talk to your family about this, if you think you can talk to them about this. Or tell your Teacher when you think time is right, but be prepared to getting hurt.
You can´t leave things like this or you´ll regret it.
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reader, steph007  +, writes (13 December 2010):
OK, you are in love with her. OK, you do not mind if she knows this. OK, you have sexual fantasies with her. All of this may be OK. But believe me: if that fantasy would come to real, then you were who would be hurt REAL. So, do not force anything to step forward. These type of dreams should remain dreams. On the other hand, I advise you open more real friendship or love with age matching boys (or girls?? - you are who knows the answer).
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Thanks guys for the replys. I chose not to see a therapist because I don't want my mom to know about this, but I decided to face reality, and my friend is helping me with this so, I'll get over it! :)
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 "It has to be because she loves me, too."
You need help alright, but its help that only a professional can give. Crushes on teachers are normal, but when that leads to stalking and obsessing- its time to talk to a psych or counselor. You'll be doing yourself a favor as I can guarantee right now that she doesn't love you.
Please talk to an adult, even if it is just to vent your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): yeah, this doesn't seem like "just a crush".
It's goone a bit beyond that.
Just face the fact that, you should stop stalking her and being so obsessed and everything else about her, and get on with your life because nothings ever going to happen.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 December 2010):
Go to a psychiatrist. I know this is definitely the answer you're not looking for, but you sound really delusional. You're obsessed and stalking her--this is not normal behavior.
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