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writes:This year I went on holiday with my family and whilst I was away, I met a guy who lives in Wales and I'm from England, so we could make it work.The hitch is, he is 19 and has slept with 18 girls, including a threesome he told me about whilst he was out in Magaluf a year ago. He has openly told me that he has only ever been in one serious relationship and she cheated and it hurt him. Its been a few years since her. I haven't had even a quarter of the sexual experience he has had, nor am I sure that he will take me seriously. I don't really know what to do.He promises me even though we live three hours away on a train from each other, he is really taking me seriously and he hasn't ever felt this way about a girl before and thinks I'm "nicer" than all the other girls he's been with and thinks he's been looking in the wrong places, if looking at all for a relationship. I'm worried that I'm going to get hurt again like I have in the past, I know you can't change somebody - but can they change?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (26 August 2013):
 OP, your post is all about how he feels about you. It's lovely that he says these words to you (but bear in mind, they are only words). But what do you feel about him?
How do you feel about his sexual history and the fact that he hasn't wanted to be in a relationship? How do you feel about him generally? Because to me he does not sound like such a good catch ... and that's before factoring in the long instance.
I'm sure you can find a nicer guy nearer home ... all the best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2013): Bad thing 1: 18 sexual partners
Bad thing 2: He's had a threesome
Bad thing 3: He goes to Magaluf on holiday (have you seen those programs on the tv about what goes on there?)
He must of started early!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2013): Kudos to sage old guy... Couldn't have said it better myself.
My instinct is that he's being manipulative with his words- yeah you probably are "nicer" than most of the girls he's been with... Because you're clean, classier and not the usual slapper he's used to. Does that mean he's gunna turn a whole new leaf over and just,live life as a complete changed man... Really don't believe that.
He finds your freshness like some kind of detox for a bit, I think. He'll try you out, like he tried all those other 18, then go back to his old ways, cos that's what he's chosen to be accustomed to.
If you really really like him, stay friends. Proceed further than that at your own risk...
Good luck :) xx
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reader, MSA  +, writes (26 August 2013):
 hhhmmm.. how about this. Tell him that you DO want to be in a relationship with him, BUT he will need to wait a year to have sex with you. Tell him you'd like to get to know him, for you both to chat often via text or online chat and on the phone, that you'd like to go on dates - movies, dinner, park, etc. Do everything that two people dating should do.. just NO SEX. If he agrees and does this for an entire year, then you will know that he is serious and a keeper.
I wish you the best!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 August 2013):
 Let me re-state what I think I've read:
"I have met a guy from Wales who is a male-whore. I am a nice girl from England.... He tells me that I am "nicer" than most of the other girls he has bedded... and I'm trying to convince myself that he's Hell-bent upon becoming decent on my behalf. Should I believe him"
No....
Good luck...
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