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writes:Hello, Am 27 years old, am in a 7 months relationship , distance deny us sometimes but we talk over the phone . Most times when we see each other, we do have sex and also perform oral sex together. Recently she told me she doesn't really get aroused again anytime i get down to suck her. Am disturbed by what she told me and am thinking she might be seeing someone else or she's getting bored of me. Please help out , thanks
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 June 2014):
 if you are SUCKING her clit no wonder she doesn't get off..
ask her how she wants you do to it.
try writing the alphabet with your tongue on her clit... see if she likes it better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2014): Perhaps she just doesn't like oral sex much and that's it. I don't like it that much. Like it's ok but I'd rather have actual sex. Maybe she's the same.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (7 June 2014):
 She may just not like oral, there is nothing wrong with her, and she isn't cheating. Every woman is different.
From my own point of view, I really do not like having it done to me. It turns me off quicker than anything. My mind wanders and I just get bored.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 June 2014):
 It means you're not doing it right.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 June 2014):
 Why should that be a sign of cheating ?
I think she just either does not like receiving oral sex ( yes, all women are different, so there also women who dilike/ aren't sufficiently turned on by oral sex ), or, she does not like the way YOU do it. Which does not mean you are necessarily a bad lover- only that there's no one-size-fits all for oral sex, each woman responds ( or does not respond ) to a certain type of stimulation, speed, pressure etc.
You'd have to ask her, which one is it. If she just does not like oral- too bad, so be it. If it is you- offer to follow closely her directions, tell her to express freely her preferences and you'll comply.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (7 June 2014):
It has nothing to do with cheating. She either isn't into oral in general, or she doesn't like how you do it. Maybe you're to rough and she is too sensitive? Work with her to see if there's anything you can do differently.
I have usually been competent in that area but for my wife she's always so sensitive that all my old tricks are too much for her. It's been difficult learning exactly what she likes and we've been together for 7 years!
Fortunately she can orgasm through sex so she doesn't feel the need for it anyways.
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