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writes:Hey, this is my first time here...I have a question that I need answered, and if anyone could help, that would be terrific, but please, I don't need someone passing judgment on me. Well, here goes.I'm in a long distance relationship with this girl I met 5 years ago,and for 3 months we've been a couple, we've been great friends and have been there for each other when we needed the other, we trust each other 120%, the thing is though, im 18, and she's 16, to make things worse, her dad is one of those "all people on the internet are crazy and want you for nothing but sex" types, he has every right to believe that, but that's not me, I am not in this for sex, I'm in this for love (laugh at me and call me childish, an 18 year old says he's in love with a 16 year old, that's silly) but that's the truth, we do love each other. I want to explain to her dad who I am, my intentions, that im not some creep on the internet, that I am a gentleman, and will not harm her in any way what so ever. I understand school has started for her as well, and I don't want her focusing on me instead of school, I've told her that myself, and I'll be going to community college here in a few weeks, but if anyone has any advice, or a solution of how they got around this, please help me, I guess it is a lot to ask for, I understand that this is a rare situation I guess, but how do I explain myself, her dad is one of those stubborn types and Isn't the type to listen, so please, if anyone could help, thank you, it would mean a lot to me. Please though, no tearing into me because of the age, I'm looking for help.
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reader, Kane411 +, writes (4 September 2009):
Kane411 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell, if actions speak louder then words, should we just hold off on this for a few more months, then slowly tell him? With what has been done and hasn't been done, show him and then work from there? And yes, she know not to push this on him, we're just trying to figure out how to do this without losing communication between each other
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reader, rcn +, writes (4 September 2009):
 Verbal explanation? Isn't going to work. This is something that is proven by your actions. Anyone can say they won't hurt his daughter, but then it happens. I have daughters, and I know the guys who treat them well and those who don't. I know this because of the truth behind, "actions speak louder than words." On the same side, tell her not to push the relationship on him either. She doesn't need all these "sex and internet" comments. Ultimately what's done or isn't done will prove or disprove your value to his daughter.
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