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writes:My ex boyfriend and I got back into contact recently.When he came back on holidays, we hanged out twice. Once just the two of us and the other time with a friend.My feelings for him is still raw. I dont think he still loves me.We just hanged out as friends.Whenever I text him, its rare that he replies, but sometimes he does. Whenever i initiate a chat on fb, I always get late reply.....I still love him...Why does he do this????....It hurts.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Why do you this to yourself ,in fact. He is an ex ! Why do you contact him, why do you initiate chats on fb, why do you hang out as friends while you know that you still love him more than just as a friend ! It's like you were driving a hammer on your knuckles, then you ask : Ouch ! Why did the hammer hurt me ?, that mean, bad hammer !
You need to STOP. You can't get over somebody, until you take any excuse to go sniffing around him.
Accept that now you are still very vulnerable and it's not the moment to cultivate a friendship with your ex. When you will be totally, or at least mostly over him, then you can restart your friendship, if you'll still want ( but probalby you will not want ,because you won't care anymore )
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 May 2011):
 I know it is hard but you just need to accept that it is over, tell yourself over and over again that you are never going to get back with him, no buts or maybes you just need to keep telling yourself it is not going to happen. Once you have accepted that get out and about and socialize more. Enjoy single life. Meet new people and keep yourself busy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your reply...that really helps....but I still want him back...eventhough I know im wishing for something impossible....I cant move on even it has been 6 months since we broke up......
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (4 May 2011):
Maybe he knows that you still have feelings for him and he is ignoring you because he just doesnt feel the same way. It is probably him trying to be kind to you in his own way so that you dont think he is leading you on. Sweetie you really need to stop texting him and chatting to him on facebook as you are only making it harder for yourself. You need to get over him and stop showing him that you care so much.
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