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writes:I finished my last year at school last year. I played a lot of soccer, and the head of department seemed he didn't like me. He'd ignore me, or pick on me, or say some pretty harsh things about the way I played.. Maybe to get better play out of me. But then the next day he'd be really nice and chat away to me. I'd be so hurt sometimes because he wouldn't put me on the field to play, when my team mates wanted me there, and he'd always say your time will come even though I've been playing since I was little, and got an offer to play in the national woman's team for under 17's a few years before. Then other times he would put me on. I made my mind up that he didn't like me.. I mentioned him to my aunty and she immediately said "he fancies you" I didn't believe this at all. But other day I saw him (now that I'm no longer a student) and he came up to me and said Hi Gorgeous and gave me a big hug?? Then started rubbing my back as he thanked me for all the hard work I'd done for the team?? He's taken as well. But he was completely different with me. I asked a good friend of mine who is a teacher at another school (without explaining the hi gorgeous situation) - and he said: if a teacher likes a student the guilt factor can be huge, and the only way to ensure something doesn't happen is to make the kid dislike you. Which I found interesting. I saw him again yesterday and more aware of things, I noticed he could barely look me in the eye and he kept adjusting his glasses and moving around a bit. Not walking, just moving his arms or whatever. He was shy this time, but almost overly confident weeks before, then while I was a student a bit of an asshole. What is this guys deal??
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (5 May 2011):
 Oh, I missed that little sentence, Eyes! Thanks for mentioning it. I guess it doesn't really matter. If you are concerned that he was inappropriate and needs to be reported so he doesn't harass anyone, or if you feel you have been harassed by him, please do report the incidents. I'm sure they will investigate and if he's broken the rules, he'll lose his job, and so won't bother anyone else again. I'm sure you would welcome that outcome if he has been inappropriate and has sexually harassed you, right?
Well, good luck in your decision as to what to do about this.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 May 2011):
 You said "He's taken as well." So I guess it really doesn't matter WHAT his deal is, now does it?!!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 May 2011):
Oh, and if someone suddenly started staring at me and made me feel uncomfortable with their scrutiny, if I thought they were having inappropriate thoughts about me, I'd probably get pretty fidgety and try to ignore them, hoping they would get the hint. Especially if I had just been merely friendly to them, not trying to convey anything more than friendship. Awkward, you know?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 May 2011):
He sounds like he's a busy, distracted guy who has a lot of students. Maybe he has stuff going on at home that is affecting his outside demeanor. I know people who have parents who are ill or who are going through things like cancer diagnosis and treatment that makes them appear disconnected and unsettled in a way they probably don't intend.
I guess I just wouldn't read too much into it. Is he married, by any chance?
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