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*ames_501
writes:Hi,I'm after some female advice.I really like a girl who works on same floor but in different department. I've told her that I liked her. I kind of decided last year not to pursue anything as I thought it would interfere with work. Not sure at the time if I could have dealt with work and emotions with someone who I see every day.I really find it difficult to speak to her as I'm very attracted to her.Someimes she's really nice but not sur if she's interested. When we go out in a work group, we don't really speak to each other. I can see her glancing at me a lot but she never comes over to chat. She is single and flirts quite a bit. I did try and speak to her last year , but she kind of looked embarrased and said it was just banter.If we walk past each other in the corridor, she will drop her head or I will drop my head.I just don't know whether she thinks I'm a wierdo and she doesn't want anything to do with me, or whether she does like me and just wants me to behave normally.I'm thinking of asking someone she knows well in the office what to do, but not sure.I like her so much and its kind of badly effected me because we won't speak to each other. Guess I don't think I can be friends with her - it would have to be all or nothing.Any advice from a woman on how a woman's mind works would be great.I'm a nice guy - normal and my only weakness is that I like someone..
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): You are risking losing someone you like because you are procrastinating. Your situation is the same everyone faces at the beginning of a relationship. She is not going to proposition you, and you wouldn't like it if she did. Ask her for a coffee 'sometime'. If she's eager follow up quickly (ie in the next couple of days) with a time and place. If she's not keen, that's fine, as you've only made a casual suggestion and there's no need to be embarrassed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): Hi, you do seem like a nice guy and not a weirdo! :)
If a girl likes you, she will definitely look at you in the eyes when you look at her, she will appear nervous if she is shy and sometimes will not know what to say. She will find any excuse to be around you. Ask her out for some coffee--after work and see how she responds.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (7 August 2011):
 Just some advice from a male. You are in a work situation so it is always difficult to work out what these actions mean. If You look at a few things, you told her you liked her, she look embarrassed by the talk and also the dropping of heads as you pass. These instances don't tell me there is anything to hope for in the way of dating. Further, not speaking doesn't really help as there is no natural banter going on. So to sum up, things don't look like they could be dating material. However, I'm happy to be wrong and shall be interested to read any other posts.
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