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writes:Ladies, how much does your boyfriend/fiance/husband generally spend on you each month? I feel like my fiance spends way too much money on me and I feel really guilty. Any advice or input is appreciated =)
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 Seen as I'm in the UK I dont know anything about that phone or the way mobile phone companies work over there but if they are anything like what we have in the UK, you could just give them a ring and try and find out when it will become available for non-contract users. I'm assuming here that the phone is quite new so that may be why you cant get it just yet, so find out from the mobile phone company when it will be released and until then save up for it!
But that would be a lovely gift for him I'm sure!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was thinking of buying him the Tmobile Mytouch, but they are not the easiest to buy out of contract at the moment unless you want to spend 500$ getting it off of ebay
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (21 August 2009):
You are lucky to have found a man that wants to look after you and spoil you - enjoy it dont feel guilty! This guy is clearly very generous and wants to make you feel special - what is so wrong with that? I know it is his money and you might feel bad but at the end of the day, he chooses what he wants to spend his money on and if that is you well then that is his choice.
He sounds like a great boyfriend, you should feel really lucky! I wish I could find a guy that would buy me even the occasional gift - the majority of men out there have no idea about buying women gifts so they just dont bother and think buying you a drink in the pub once a month will suffice!
As long as he can afford it and he's not putting himself under financial strain then just accept that this is part of his personality and enjoy it! Why dont you try and do a few nice things for him to show your appreciation? Like making him romantic meals (you can buy the food while he is at work so he isnt spending his money), or make a picnic and go out to the park/country, or maybe you could even buy him the occasional gift - if you cant afford much just little things are nice, like his favourite sweets/chocolate or a CD he wants.
He is a romantic man that wants to spoil the woman he loves, there is no reason for you to feel guilty. Just make sure he knows how much you appreciate it and all will be fine!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): Just enjoy it and show him that you really appreciate it. He probably justs loves you and loves spending money on you. If and when he stops you will miss it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not saying the amount matters, I'm saying he is spending too much and I am not comfortable with it. I used to pay him back for gifts and now he won't let me. Its 100% him doing it, I feel extremely guilty although it isn't my fault. I would prefer he spent less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): Wow, since when did the amount matter... if he makes $24,0000 a year the weekly amount isn't going to be much... if he makes $150,000 (or more) a year the same amount is chicken feed. It's like worrying about what kind of car he drives.
The question is, is the money appropriate? Is he over spending in an effort to 'buy' your affection? Or is he so cheap that is an indication that he's a tight wad.
I prefer to buy the occasional unexpected gift that my wife would have not likely bought herself. Flowers on Fridays, and the occasional "fun" gift. My wife (a professional with a good career) buys most of the the large things that she wants... I'm not going to even know what kind of shoes or purses to buy, and forget about me buying cloths for her! her taste is A+ (mine not so good!).
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust this month he's spent 54 on one tshirt, 24 on another, 71 on a sweater, and 67 on a hoodie for me....and last month he bought me a pair of 114$ jeans and a pair of 50$ jeans...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 August 2009):
 Not factoring in paying for each other's meals since it evens out pretty well, I'd say no more than $10 a month on sweet nothings and I don't feel neglected. I don't think he'd spend it if he didn't have it and didn't think you were a "worthwhile investment!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not trying to be arrogant or brag, I just feel guilty even if he buys me anassorted pack of 50 flavors of jelly beans for 12.99 from the hallmark store...I feel it is his money and he worked for it, I didn't work for it. Yet I feel he spends more on me than on himself
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): Nothing he can't afford ;)
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