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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok, this is really weird-my boyfriend didn't seem like the obsessive type, he didn't txt me every 5 seconds or anything like that, but about 3 years ago we had this fight and he hit me and left marks-a few days after that I noticed him standing across the road from my house-even though I'd not long moved there and he claimed not to know where it was, over the next couple of weeks he kept popping up all over the place, appearing in places he shouldn'tve been, you know-every time he did this he blanked me and when I would ring him and ask about it he'd say it wasn't him, it was creepy cos some of these places were 60 or 70 miles away from where he lived, anyway a couple of weeks after the fight, this boy chatted me up and as we were talking, he kept dropping hints that he knew my boyfriend, then as I was walking with him my boyfriend made another appearance across the road in front-we were at a t junction, I thought there was something weird going on with the boy and wanted to fish for information, so I agreed to wait down this alleyway while he went to get his car, after about 10 minutes ,I changed my mind and peeked round the corner in case he was coming before I ran-the boy was standing up the road talking to my boyfriend! Anyway, I was too scared to go home in case someone was waiting there so I just walked round the streets all night-which is when I noticed I was actually being followed-the streets were very quiet so I noticed everything, unlike in the day. A small group of 2 or 3 men would follow me a few streets-and I purposely walked down little residential streets where there weren’t any shops, to be sure, then another group would take over-in all, there were about 20 people-I saw my so called boyfriend with one group-anyway, I waited till morning then caught a train to my mum’s house and stayed inside for about a month I was so scared-imagine my shock when I went back to my area only to discover they were still doing it. Believe it or not but this has been going on continuously for almost three years-I met my boyfriend 6 years ago so it could easily have been longer-I didn't used to be very vigilant before so I wouldn't have noticed .why do you think they’re doing this-I thought at first my boyfriend had paid some mates to scare me out of reporting him for hitting me but it can’t be that-thank you for helping me by the way if it helps I am 20 and female and my boyfriend and his mates or whatever they are, are mostly in their 30's and 40's,mostly men but there are a couple of women too. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): I think you should stay at your mum's (that is if he doesn't know where she lives) for the time being, and report everything to the police from her house. Also i would suggest taking a couple of family members with you to pick up any important items you need to take with you, and go straight back to your mum's. This is stalking and intimidation and the police can actually do something about him and his idiots.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (21 August 2009):
 to be honest this seems to me like abuse they are trying to scare you and i would be careful if i was you as something might be being planned you need to get professional advice or a injunction against the guy as he is stalking you talk to your parents about this
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