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writes:ok guys! so theres this guy and we're seeing each other, sort of going out but not quite made it official. anyway, im 17 and obviously me and him hanging out and stuff will eventually lead to other thingssss.. but the thing is im really nervous because i havent done anything more than kissing before and although i do feel comfortable with him, im just not comfortable with myself enough to let anything happen other than kissing and cuddling. he doesnt know this.. its weird, i know that i like him and that we wil be going out officially soon anyway so theres nothing wrong with doing this stuff, plus im old and sensible enough to make my own choice about it all.. but im just very nervous about it all and i feel like we need an element of a physical relationship to keep this going, so i dont know how to get over it. also hes quite slim and im a bit bigger, so it makes me even more self concious. any advice on this? please dont just say to "talk to him", ill still feel uncomfortable. thanks :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): Hmmm an interesting problem as you define it. You want to let him know that 2nd base is ok but signal him some how that further is too far? I think you'd have to resort to 50's gals move to keep him from getting too "handsy".Maybe you should stick to kissing sessions for the next month or so and see how that goes. You may get comfortable enough that you can have a quick discussion, maybe over email or on the phone. Believe me guys are so busy trying to read signals about how far a girl will go that you can just give him a quick indication.
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reader, Millyxox  +, writes (28 October 2009):
mmm woow tottaally been dere ! & aww rlly.. honestly if u doo trusst him n kno him enuff den let him kno exactly wat u meaan :P mak it confiddent wenevr u talk tu him ! i kno my bf digs confidence:) as far as scnd base hmm.. its rlly ur PERSONAL choice how far u wana go in wat lil tym
think it thru :P & talk tu him!
if ur nervous mak it sound sxcy n all b like i kno u want me n all n i cnt ressist u either but i wanaa mak sure u dnt mistrreat if i giv u mee & alll :P mak it a whispery voice nxt tym u guys discuss it he wudnt even kno ur nervous ! :)
hope i helped (=
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