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*weetSmoochy
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I'm a very physical person, he's not. that presents a problem. He will not have sex with me for a variety of excuses, the most commonly used one is he's afraid to get me pregnant (I'm on the pill, we'd use condoms). the few sexual things we do are always initiated by me, and they are almost always just for him. He is not a virgin and neither am I, we have a close emotional relationship, he was not abused, and we've been together quite a while. I'm really starting to wonder what's really going on here. I'm starting to be really upset by this rejection, and I'm starting to feel really unattractive. I used to think I was beautiful, but lately I just see a plain girl in the mirror and wonder what's so revolting about me. That can't be healthy. What do I do???
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (6 August 2011):
SweetSmoochy is verified as being by the original poster of the question I've wondered if this will change after I turn 18. It might.
We talked about this and I feel a lot better now. it'll happen I suppose. It's not like I don't still really want it to happen, but he's trying really hard to make me feel beautiful in other ways now.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (27 July 2011):
At first I thought that maybe it was because you're not 'legal' yet, but since you both already had sex before you got together, that one can be crossed off the list. I think I would talk to him and ask what is going on.
Simply tell him you've noticed he never seems interested in getting intimate and is always using some kind of weak excuse. Tell him you're tired of this and want to know what's really going on. Swat away any flimsy excuse he has and tell him to cut the crap and get to the heart of the matter.
Something is up and as a stranger I cannot tell you what it is--you'll need to ask him the way you asked us.
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