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*nahardplace
writes:Hi guys, really need some help and to just get this off my chest. Been with my girlfriend for 2 years and she cheated on me (drunken kiss) while she was overseas on some holiday and told me and she regretted it, apologized etc. It took me awhile and a lot of fights to get over it but I eventually did. I also kissed someone else about 5 months later. A drunken mistake which deep down was probably fueled by hurt and we were on a short break at the time. Things were going great until i went overseas and kissed someone again but I told her that i was really sorry and it was a drunken mistake and it wouldnt happen again, which it didn't. I stopped drinking because that seemed to be the root of most of this problems.Last night she told me she kissed a friend while drunk and she didnt remeber it but was told about it later. Same deal she was honest etc.We are both 20 now and I still love her but I feel its getting ridiculous and becoming a cycle..... 2 a piece now. I mean it makes it so much harder that it was with her friend...... Any suggestions about whys to deal with it or what to do?Thanks heaps
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reader, Inahardplace +, writes (15 March 2011):
Inahardplace is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for that. We both seem to want to make it work but the constant mistakes are stupid. I mean if it was more than a small kiss I wouldn't hesitate to end it but considering as "shit happens" in most relationships its hard to act without being a hypocrite, considering my on mistakes. Alcohol is certainly not an excuse.
Any more help would be great.
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 You two need to 1) talk about this and 2) stop drinking, and using drinking as an excuse.
The saying goes that a sober person's thoughts are a drunk person's actions. The fact that every time an event like this has occured, you two have been apart and under the influence may suggest that you are subconciously done with the relationship.
You two have been together a long time, so you obviously care for each other. Sometimes it's time to move on though. Especially when you're young like you are, meeting new people everywhere you go. You guys should talk about where the realtionship is going and dig to the root of all of this smooching-on-the-side.
Best of Luck!
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