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Kissing doesn't do anything for me, but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, who loves it!

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Question - (15 July 2005) 2 Answers - (Newest, 11 November 2007)
A female , anonymous writes:

Ok, basically my problem is that I don't like kissing (on mouth), it really does nothing for me. Recently I have started seeing this guy who seems to love kissing, he's 18 and has been in serious relationships before whereas I never have (I'm 16). When he touches me it feels great but I often avoid kissing. I know I'm being selfish but I don't know how to change. Is this normal? I don't really want to talk to him about it as I feel embarrassed and do not want to make him feels he's done something wrong. I just dont know what to do, Help.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007):

hey dont worry about it girl, im 20 and i hate kissing too, its grose man i dont have kissing phobia butI really dont like it. i think you should be open with your boyfriend about this, nothing is more sexy than honesty. and hell I thought all guys didn't really like kissing, so if you tell your boyfriend i bet he would be happy....going dirrectly to point C from B, is in most guys opinion much better than going from A to B ro C, and girl if this guy cant change his ways, learn to love him or leave girl

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A reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (17 July 2005):

I've never heard of any couple with perfect chemistry. Maybe there are some, but most people are like you and I, with opposing desires with their sig others. You should just tell him, because nothing physical ever works out unless both people want it. My girl doesn't like kissing just like you (grrr..) and I do like kissing just like your guy. She was up front about it, but also listened to what I thought about it. If you're thing together is new, I know it might be weird and difficult for a talk like this but it'd be best if you just said something. What happened with my relationship was I took the hint and casually leaned into giving her "little smooches" (pecks) when I wanted the reassurance and comfort of a kiss. I don't feel right if I can't kiss my gf at all, so it's a halfway thing. Sometimes when she feels like it we make out and kiss with a passion but I'll always let her initiate this because I know otherwise she doesn't like it so it's no good for me either. Just tell him.

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