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writes: I have been with my man for 9 months and I love him so so much. Recently things have been difficult. I feel like all the things that are important to me were insignificant to him and it really started to hurt me. I told him how I felt and that I was considering finishing with him.A week ago in a confused and drunken state I kissed someone else and now the guilt is killing me - can feel myself puling away because I don't want to hurt my man and he is trying so hard to keep our relationship going.What shall I do?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): Touch decision.
Some people would keep it quite, and would perhaps not be guilty. Others would be honest and tell the other person.
I would suggest this to help you find your answer: Would you want to know if your boyfriend kissed someone else, if he were in your situation? Or, are you likely to stop feeling guilty about it?
If you tell him, he might finish with you straight away. Or he might come to understand. Some good might come out of it. He might be better attentive to your needs.
If you do tell him, as well as telling him why you did it, try to reassure him about your feelings for him and that you would never, ever, do it again. You need to reassure him on this point that it was a few seconds mistake that made you realise how wrong it was to do it.
Often it is these such situations that make or break a relationship. When couples can get through difficult times, they learn something new about each other, and it better prepares them for future events.
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reader, miss nade +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Dearest
I tend you to preach honesty but at the end of the day a kiss is only a kiss… isn’t it? I mean if you slept with the other person, less said easy mended. Did it clarify your feelings for your boyfriend?
If so lesson learnt.
Guilt is your is just that yours, I pray to existence to help me forgive myself when I feel I have done something wrong.
Wishing you the best.
Miss Nade
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