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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I recently moved away to college about an hour and a half away from my girlfriend. We decided to stay together since I will be able to come home and visit almost every weekend.I recently got drunk and kissed a friend of mine that lives in the same dorm as me. I told my girlfriend what happened and she understandably she got very upset. Now she says she doesn't know if she can trust me anymore. I feel horrible about it and know I will never cheat again or even get drunk when she's not around. Is there any hope for our relationship? if so how can I ever regain her trust?
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reader, studentnurse +, writes (25 September 2008):
That sucks, but it happens. She will trust you again, but you have to keep proving it too her, it usually take us girls longer to trust again. But she will. And as far and regaining her trust you just have to keep your word on everything you do. Don't give her a reason to wonder anymore. Keep her updated on what's going on in your everyday life. And stay away from the girl you kissed. Drunk or not, that's never a good person to be around. You may wonder what if or she might and try it again.
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reader, Dr T  +, writes (25 September 2008):
Its a tough one Bro. However you seem to be making big gestures to demonstrate that you are sorry and will not be doing this again ie not drinking.
From her perspective she will be wondering what you are up to during the week you dont see each other.
I guess its largely up to her, you continue to do what youre doing, sit down and have frank, open conversations with her. Address her concerns whether its hard to talk about or not..get it out in the open. Whatever happens after that you know you have done what you can to repair the damage and youve learned a valuable lesson.
All part of life mate, college is a very wild time in your life!
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reader, Neera  +, writes (25 September 2008):
Oh, that's so sad. I think you should write her a letter. In person, it might be difficult for you to convey what you mean to say, and for her to sit and listen. But if you you write, she will definitely read it.
Some things you can tell her:
you really love her a lot and that is why you are willing to do anything to get back with her.
you were not yourself when this incident happened, so you were not cheating, really. You told her the truth which means you are committed and honest.
Apart from this, you could get some close friends to talk to her and tell her to give your relationship another chance.
I can totally understand her point as well, I mean I'd have been mad at my husband if he told me such a story! This is one thing that is very important to girls: that you be totally committed.
Goodluck!
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