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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I met an old guy friend at a reunion recently. I took along my boyfriend who I love with me. When he was away getting drinks this old friend pulled me aside outside and told me that I was his first love and that he's held a torch for 20 years. He's recently remarried so I was very surprised when he made the move to kiss me. He said no one would know and that we can pretend if was the kiss we never had 20 years ago. It was very tempting as I too held a torch for him. Out of respect for my boyfriend I said no. I tell my boyfriend everything (it's my nature) and so I feel extremely guilty for not telling him about this. Worse yet is that now its all I think about even though he lives out of state and is newly married. So is it more harmful to keep this secret or reveal it? It's eating me up. Reply to this Question
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (17 November 2010):
you are a very good and honest lady
but as humans we all do mistakes,
i say dont tell your BF
because telling him well put allot of unnecassary
pressure and jeallousy into your relationship
BUT simply forget this oldfriend and cut any contact with him once and for all
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): You seem like a very good person. Since you did nothing wrong getting this off your chest and telling your boyfriend about it sounds logical to me. If he is a half decent person he should have no problem and will be greatful that you resisted and came clean about the incident.
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