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writes:I don't want to sound arrogant, but when i go on a night out, I get a heck of a lot of attention from guys!! Yeah sure, at the time it's fun and i love hearing guys compliment me and approaching because it makes me feel great!! Most girls would love that, so you would think me saying what I'm about to is silly...But when i go home and I'm trying to sleep i ALWAYS think, even after all the compliments, attention and amazing people I've met... Why don't I still have a boyfriend then!? Or I just I don't feel happy like I don't feel good about myself i'm just in this dull and down feeling. And i don't feel as 'beautiful' and 'hott' as all those guys say. I just over think so much about the night and about myself.I don't ever degrade myself or dress in a way that attracts the wrong attention. These guys don't sleaze on me or touch me up, So why i don't feel good about myself i don't know? But you would think someone who is the attention with everyone, would feel fantastic and probably be big headed from it. Don't get me wrong i don't want to be full of myself, i just don't understand how or why i think like this....... Reply to this Question
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reader, krit  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 Feeling confident by just getting attention is just So childish. Though there's nothing wrong in this but It has to come from inside and not because of any external source. This is what which makes a women super sexy and attractive to most of the man. You should not be feeding Only on their compliments to just FEEL GOOD about yourself cuz as the relationship grows these compliment givin thing gradually ends most of the time. Where would you run than???? To some other guy ?? It would not solve your problem. Got my point......
See the movie stars, there are always in spotlight and get unstoppable attention and compliments still many of them suffer from broken hearts ,loneliness and depression.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 It could be that many guys are afraid to even ask a truly beautiful woman out on a date. They are too afraid of being rejected.
I have read many actresses complaining of having the same problem. Can you imagine being voted one of the worlds hottest women, and yet you sit at home alone nearly every weekend?
So they only think you can do is make the first move, break the ice and then ask them out. It may seem weird or hard at first but most guys really appreaciate it. And like they say, you'll never know what you are missing until you try.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (1 May 2011):
 If you're going dancing or out to a bar and these guys are complimenting you, their comments are nice, but if there's no follow through with the male attention then maybe it feels empty to you. that kind of attention is just from guys usually trying to get some one night stand action anyway, ie. probably not good boyfriend material to begin with! If you find a guy cute and he compliments you, you should follow up on it. Get his number and ask him out for a cup of coffee or dinner later that week. Personally, I like having guys as friends before they are lovers because then you have a general sense of whether you two are compatible and what kind of boyfriend he'd be. also if you're friends with guys that aren't clubbing every weekend, i'd find them a little more trustworthy. Can you set your sights closer to home?
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