A
female
age
30-35,
*scaperealityxx
writes:I'm in a bit of a dilema and I really feel I can't turn to my family or friends as I'm scared they'll judge me. This site looks a great way to get it off my chest.I have known my ex since I was fifteen, I'm now nineteen. We dated back then for a couple of months. I really liked him, then he finished with me. But it didn't end there, we met up all the time, usually down the park. We held hands, cuddled and kissed. It never really broke off because we didn't really date with anyone else. Evantually, January 09 he asked me out again. It was great, I met his family, it was all fantastic. We had are flaws though, I couldn't trust him. He used to lie, when I found MSN conversations of him between other girls, I ended it but resulted in going back with him as I missed him so much. He goes to Uni.But evantually, we booked a holiday, life was great. But early April he stayed a weekend away with his friends and he finished with me as soon as he got back, in a nightclub of all places, fifteen months of being together.Doesn't help that his friends hate me because he had gone through a lot during childhood, and they were always there for him. He'd do anything for them.Anyway so he finished it with me, then cancelled our holiday, burnt my clothes, the lot. It was awful and that happened early April. It's now June, and we still keep contact. My fault, I emailed him saying good luck with his exams and it hasn't stopped there. I see him weekly, we end up doing things we shouldn't. He holds my hand when we go out, and cuddles me like I'm his own private girlfriend but not when it comes down to it. What do I do? Do I break off contact altogether or just keep going till I find someone else? That sounds awful but keeping in contact with him has made me happier than I was. I'm sure it's all gonna hurt again, and I'll be back to square one. I Hope someone can help. Thank you
View related questions:
his ex, msn, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Ever made a photocopy? Then photocopied the photocopy you just made? and then repeated the process? The quality gets worse and worse each time you do it, to the point where you've got an incredibly crappy copy which is nowhere near as good as what it was when it first started... When you are in a cycle of repeatedly breaking up with one person, you can't expect that getting back together with them will result in any better relationship than the one before it, only worse. There are exceptions of course but its a good bet that they were after years of being apart, enough time to change, mature, learn to appreciate, etc. etc.
Break the cycle, you won't regret it.
Best of luck :)
A
female
reader, escaperealityxx +, writes (12 June 2010):
escaperealityxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok so i guess thats what i need to do. I need to be strong. My contract ends soon so i will be getting a brand new number. Unfortunatly i know his off by heart. As for the fire thing, he told me he did it because his friends told him to after finding out i sold the things he brought me (fair enough, he made me lose over one hundred pounds because of the cancelation of the holiday). He is very well influenced by them. He shows off to me that he gets high everytime he can. He got a tattoo, he buys new clothes all the time, got a brand new haircut. I know that i was inlove with the old guy. Not this new one. I hope one day he gets caught out. Thanks everyone x
...............................
A
female
reader, escaperealityxx +, writes (12 June 2010):
escaperealityxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just wish it was that easy! Wish he was still back at Uni, not just up the road. I feel like because I've known him for so many years, I can't get him out of my system. Thank you for replying so quickly though, I do know what you said is the best thing to do! & what you said about other guys doing the same, I can imagine that happening as they'll realise what i'm like with him. thank you
...............................
A
male
reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 June 2010):
Stop all contact with this guy NOW. Read what you've written. This guy has dumped you THREE TIMES, and even burnt your clothes. That's shocking. If there was ever a man using a woman, he's that man. You are truly being used by him. He's a liar, he's totally unpredictable and from what you've said it sounds like he's cheated. Keeping in contact with him is ruining your chances of getting over him and finding a decent guy. If you don't get away from him, this will be your life with men. You'l find all the rubbish ones and just be used. End it now and go and find yourself instead. You are wasting so much time with a guy who just doesn't care at all.
...............................
|
