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writes:We started seeing each other a year and a half ago. We have never been committed, and we have done a lot of terrible things to each other.I love him.I was finally moving on (because he started being really horrible to me) and seeing another guy. I cheated on new guy with the one i love.He never found out.The one I love won't talk to me. His mom died 2 weeks ago, and when I told him I was sorry and everything he said thank you. Now he isnt talking to me at all.I miss him so much. I just want him back in my life. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, LoveDocBruce  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 Hello,
The one you love is going through a very traumatic time. Unless it has happened to you, you couldn't imagine the pain he is feeling. Right now, if he wants space, then you must give him space. Grief works in five stages.
* 1. Denial and Isolation.
* 2. Anger.
* 3. Bargaining.
* 4. Depression.
* 5. Acceptance.
What he is doing is normal. It will take time. If you love him, you must be patient. Communicate with him maybe once every week. Don't say you're sorry. You've already said that. Don't invite him to go out with you and some friends. Instead, say that you wish to make him dinner, watch a movie, something that you can do at his place. But be very cautious when talking to him. Be calm, collective. And remember, you must be patient. Don't think about sex when you're there. He'll sense, become standoffish and you will lose him. Be his friend. Sit at your end of the couch, let him sit on his.
Don't push it and good luck.
Let me know if you use my advice, and the outcome. Good luck.
-LoveDocBruce
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