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writes:I want to finsh with my boyfriend who I have been with for 17 months. The thing is I have tried so many times in the past but he manipulates me into staying with him. I'm fed up of the way he treats me. He tries to dictate my life and thinks he's funny by accusing me of cheating on him all the time. Any ideas of how to finish with someone who won't take no for answer? Reply to this Question
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reader, Strippa +, writes (1 November 2007):
 I've got the answer
you tell the guy when he talks to you about cheating that to be fair u have said enough times that u don't want to be in the relationship so therefore it wouldn't be cheating as you are no longer emotionally attatched to him, and the reason you are not seeing other people is cos you choose not to but ultimately you are just there cos he won't let you not be. you have no interest in him and feel controlled.
Tell him that you are not interested in anyone else you just want to be alone for a while & that if he doesn't give you that space you will resent him for it, You are floating wood at the moment that is no way to really live - see if you have no contact for 2 weeks you miss each other - if he still doesn't get the message be strong and don't be manipulated. Chooses life xx
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reader, Strippa +, writes (1 November 2007):
I've got the answer
you tell the guy when he talks to you about cheating that to be fair u have said enough times that u don't want to be in the relationship so therefore it wouldn't be cheating as you are no longer emotionally attatched to him, and the reason you are not seeing other people is cos you choose not to but ultimately you are just there cos he won't let you not be. you have no interest in him and feel controlled.
Tell him that you are not interested in anyone else you just want to be alone for a while & that if he doesn't give you that space you will resent him for it, You are floating wood at the moment that is no way to really live - see if you have no contact for 2 weeks you miss each other - if he still doesn't get the message be strong and don't be manipulated. Chooses life xx
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Hello.
You really need to tell him you are not interested in him, and if he does not go away, then you will report him to the police because he is stalking you, you need to impress on him that you are not going to take this BS from him any more, and if he want to spend time in jail it might teach him a bit of respect for other peoples feeling, you dont really have to go to the police if you dont want to, but it might put fear of god into him if you tell him that,if it does not then you should inform them any way, he will be cautioned, then he will now you mean what you say.
hope this helps
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reader, kenny +, writes (1 November 2007):
 You have just got to tell him its over and be done with it, wash your hands of it all and walk away. Tell him sooner rather than later, the longer you leave it the harder it will get. Don't be manipulated into staying, you are not doing yourself any favours by keep sticking it out once more each time he makes you feel bad. By the sounds of it he does not treat you right anyway, so do the right thing and tell him its over, be firm, stern, say what you have got to say and thats it, walk away. If needs be change your mobile phone number, or your email address. Sooner or later he will get the message then you can get on with your life.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Just tell him its over and to leave you alone. I know you are probably thinking 'yeah i've tried that' or 'he won't listen'. But by law if you ask somebody to leave you alone then they should. Although I know not everyone does.
Tell him it's over and you don't want to see him again. Don't let his mind games or manipulation get to you. Just say your bit then walk away from him. If he won't leave you alone start getting the police involved.
It does seem a lot of hassle but the longer you keep taking this guy back and controlling you the more he's going to wrap you round his little finger. If he has the police warn him off then it may show him this time you mean business.
Give him his marching orders and see what he does. If he knows you are serious this time, he may leave you alone on his own. If he keeps ringing you or whatever, call the police at your local station and have a word with them and explain an ex wont leave you alone although you have asked him to.
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