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writes:hi, My name is Gerard, first off, me and my girlfriend broke up a few weeks ago, she;s dating this other guy now and we've been through this all before, over the past 6 years of being with her i've had to wait for her while she was with other guys for month's at a time, maybe im just stupid, and i didn't listen to anyone who said just move on, truth is, i really feel i can't, i've tryed but it never works i keep coming back to her, but this time is different.See when i met her, we lived in the same city (st.Catharines) but a few years back her parents kicked her out and now she lives in toronto, so we tryed to make it work as a long distant relationship, they say it never lasts, but i was more then willing for her,... but now it just seems she doesn't even care about me, we talk on msn, well i talk she just says small things like "k", or " im not mad at you" just small answers, she changed her number so i couldn't call her anymore, and this new guy she's with has only been in the picture for a week now, and i guess she likes him because he has money and car, which at the age of 20, i don't, i was never able to give her what she wanted,...only what she needed, love, which at this point im thinking is that just what the losers think. it's so hard now cause it's hard to talk to her because it seems she only wants to put me down, like she'll say " im happier with him, never you" and today which was the hardest, she said "im not dating him, he asked me to marry him and i said yes", it broke my heart, it really did. I'm hurting over her bad cause it seems nothing i do is helping, i know deep down inside she still loves me, i can feel it, so i guess my question to you guys is,... if love worth taking, should i wait for this person like i have in the past, i know i can't be without her, there's been just to much going on with us it's unreal,... could this just be a phase she''s going through,... i don't need a answer like just move on, cause they say you can move on from your first love,... but i don't believe that's true,.. i believe you can cover it up, be with aother person and pretend to be happy,... but to forget about it, i just don't want to,... do you think i still have a chance, cause im scaring myself bad here i feel mayself losing her each day with her,... please help me, i promise her you guys and her i'll do better if i get her back, if you have any type of options to help me get her back, please,... im hurting and can't stop thinking of her. i need help
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reader, Hanox  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Show up on the doorstep and show her what she's missing. She seems like the type of girl who will pick you up and down and not appriacte you.
If she really has moved on then it's time for you too aswel.
It doesn't matter if you try harder, she's the one who should try harder no-one else..
I dunno what to say to make you feel like it's not your fault because it's not-- but girls are horrible when it comes to relationships [APART FROM THE NICE GIRLS]
just try and take your mind of what could of been and remember what was.
Don't worry, if she truly loves you. she'll come back.
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reader, Leodjoneluv  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 women come and go, man. dont give her too much power. it will hurt but think about all of the facts (the bad things and reasons to why you two are not together. their are other fishes out there.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 I can remember a time when I thought exactly as you are thinking right now. You're stubbornly idealistic. You think that this girls a saint and the only one you can ever be with.
Reality check!
She isn't and she ain't.
You've lost her dude. You need to move on because while you think you're doing the right thing now with all your heart... You're not. I've been there, I've clung for dear life to a girl who would break up and date other guys then after constant begging she'd come back, but only because it didn't work out with her new guy. I think that happened about 6 times and in hindsight I was pathetic, but nobody wants their first love to end.
I'm not gonna write any more because I'm 99% sure you will ignore all advice you get here as you've done with your friends advice. I know I did. Just hoping you're smarter than me is all as what you're doing right now... its soul-destroying.
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