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writes: I am 14 years old and have never been interested in having a b/f, even though all my friends have had one. But since I started high school 2 years ago I've started making lots of friends, boys and girls. Whenever I'm around some boys I always freeze and never know what to say because I'm afraid I'll make a fool of myself and supposedly boys never let girls live these things down. So now I'm interested in getting a b/f and have had a few crushes but have only told my best friend who swore to keep my secret because I don't want any of my other girlfriends to know, as they would ask him out for me and he would probably say no. I couldn't live walking past him in the corridor and thinking he doesn't like me. please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2005): just being yourself is the best!!!
saying with him like he is one of your friends
you don't have anything to say....I think it's not fool
because sometimes...even you stay with you close-friends...
you don't have anything to say
being relax (I know it's really hard)
and be confident
you know...some fool action but not pretented to be is very attractive to the guy :-)
good luck!!!!
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reader, kt  +, writes (11 August 2005):
 its ok to like boys at your age it comes naturally. and that is how you should flirt - natrally, dont worrie about makein a fool of yourself just dont think about because that is how it can go wrong.
and dont worrie about your friends, i dont tell my friends when i fanc a boy - just in case they laugh at me, i just flirt and flirt if i like someone and if they ask me out i say yes then tell my friends.
good luck!!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (10 August 2005):
 When you're around boys that you have a crush on, or that you might be interested in, the secret is to treat them exactly the same as you do your boy friends. You say that you have both boys and girls as friends. That's great. Don't treat the new boys any differently than you do the ones you already know well.
You don't have to feel tongue-tied, just be pleasant, quiet company. If you can't think of anything to say, that's fine. You can sit in on the conversations, smile and ask questions about people's opinions and lives, as the questions come to you. Even just short questions like "What did you do then?" and "How did you get interested in that?" can make you seem like a champion conversationalist, because they let people (read: boys) talk about what they know best: themselves.
Maybe now and then you'll blurt out the wrong thing. So what? If you laugh it off, they can't use it to embarrass you. Be the first to take the mickey.
As to your new crush, please DON'T make the mistake of involving your friends. If you like this guy, just talk to him yourself. Smile and say Hi to him in the corridor, ask him how his weekend was, find out if he's going to the dance, ask him if he understood Question 18 on the Chemistry exam, see if he tried that muck the cafeteria was calling "Freedom Surprise" on Tuesday... Anything! Just don't hide behind your friends, because, guaranteed, they'll think it's funny to set you up for embarrassment.
Eventually, you'll have to face the fact that dating comes down to two people - without their giggling coterie of friends - getting to know each other. Make that the first lesson you learn, and you're on your way to self-confidence (which is a very big attraction to guys!)
Don't take it too seriously and treat your crush like he's already your friend. If he's mean to you after you've been friendly to him, then you wouldn't have wanted to date him anyway, so be glad you didn't have to find that out the hard way.
(P.S. Be honest with yourself. "All" your friends don't really have boyfriends, do they? Seriously. At age 14? Every last one? Without a single exception? No, you're not the only one. So don't worry!)
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