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*airygurl
writes:Can I trust him or not? Basically I have been going out with my bf for a year and know him about 7 years. We were best friends all through school but also knowing there was a little something more there. Finally we got together last year after months of "will we".. "won't we"...He had a girlfriend of 2 years when we started to think about what we would be like as a couple. We talked everyday for about 5 months and he would call up to me, only once he cheated on her with me we kissed one night when we had been drinking.So everything has been great, until now he has gone back to college and during the summer he was emailing a girl that was going to be in his class this year, there wasn't much in them only about college and general chat. Now the course has started I found a good few texts in his fone from her, again nothing in them but general chat and smiley faces etc.. but why is there a need to text at the weekend, when they are in class every day together??I can't help but feel is she another me? Is he doing the same to me as he did with his ex? are they "just friends"..... Please tell me am I over reacting? I have explained how I feel about this and he says I'm over reacting and she has a boyfriend and they are just friends so I shouldn't be worrying but I just can't help myself!!!p.s sorry this post is so long xx
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (27 October 2008):
hiyah its in every relationship im afraid if it starts on lies it carries on throughout an sometimes you loose conrtol of what you once had and its like your sitting back and watchin history repeat itself before you and you say to yourself this is familiar or is this my punishment? etc.
your normal to be insecure especially given the circumstances you became a coupple but dont get it wrong judged on your history unlikely as it may appear to you they could just be mates and you need to look at it from all angles, not that im stcikin up for him at all its just best of youve got facts and evidence to prove it ya no?
youve tried talkin to him and he almost shrugged it off so you need to make your point stronger if its really getting to you, it will start affecting your relationship if you dont sort it openly before hand.
I cant say if your over reacting as i dont know the ins and outs but i do know you should try again to talk to your bf about it all as i think this will help in more ways than one.
im sorry i cant answer your question as really its only you who can. you obviously have trust issues with this guy so does this mean ya see a future? if your doubtin it now then is there a future? you cant be in the situation where you doubt his actions for every girl that comes along as it will wreck what you both have.
You should consider everythin through your head first as you seem a bit lost and confused. think it through to yourself considering your entire relationship not just this certain aspect.
Trust is hard and without it theres not a lot there...
best of luck hun hope all goes ok for you
ive just read what i put and it sounds like im judgin your past and i dont really know it at all so im sorry if it comes across that way lol x :)
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reader, vanillaamelia +, writes (27 October 2008):
 its ok if that would be happening to me i would feel the same way you do. If he really liked you and he wanted it to be a little more he would be talking to you more often and flirting with you and stuff or maybe he just isnt the right one. Im sure you'll make the right decision :)
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