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writes: I need help to come to term with gf's past. She had 2 different lifes if i can say that. In younger age, lots of partying, fooling around and things. Then discovered God, became very religious and she just hates that other period now. Only found out about that a few weeks ago. I felt betrayed in a way, coz when i met her I would've never thought she's ever been like that. The thing is it's been bothering her a lot as well-she kinda punishes herself for all that past and she only seeked peace in God. I can see it's still quite sore. Our relationship has became quite different now. How can we overcome this? What's my part in it. I really think its worth it since we get along extremely well. Thanks !
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advices. I will try my best to help her and help our relationship. Cheers !
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): I think she did what she could to help her get out of the behaviour at the time, i.e. finding god.
She obviously knew that she needed to to somthing about it so she found god.
Its not really that much of a big deal, she has made a massive effort to change her behaviour so just support her as much as you can.
If she gets upset thinking about, then just reassure her that that is in the past now shes a different person.
We have all done things that we are not proud, but it doesnt make us bad people.
If you love her then her past shouldnt be a prblem. Just reassure that you love her and she did the right thing.
And make sure she knows that having a slightly risque past is really not that uncommon.
Ok good luck
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reader, eddie  +, writes (10 November 2006):
 Take the "we" out of the equation and you'll have your answer. You, have to get over it. She already did. If you're as religous as she is, you'll understand that. Do you really want to dwell on what she did before you came along. Do you want to punish her on thop of the punishment she has already given herself? She owes you no apologoies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006):
Her issue: God forgives and then the slate is wiped clean. Just like Jesus and the prostitute or Jesus and the Good Thief. Boom, its over with.
Your issue: I dont see why it matters to you. Would you rather have someone who is virtuous because they were too timid to try anything, or someone who is virtuous by choice? This issue is done... unless you dont let it stay burried.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (10 November 2006):
 aids and std test if everything is ok then go for it be happy together that's my view
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