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writes: I came out of a long term relationship the beginning of the year and have started to date again recently, but i am worried in case i am expecting too much too early, what is the dating rules? I have been seeing a guy for 3 weeks, once or twice a week i've met up with him and do not hear anything from him for up to another week. Is this normal response from a guy? What is a woman supposed to do?Any advice for a nearly dating gal would be greatly accepted!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (21 December 2005):
I agree with Suzie. It is early days. give the guy some space. If he is interested he will respond.
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (21 December 2005):
 I personally don't see anything wrong with only contacting you 2 times a week if it's only our 3rd week. I realize that this is a new time and age where e-mail is relevant. So I don't discount Suzie's opinion on technological advances; however maybe he doesn't want to rush things. Maybe he's screwed up a few others by rushing them. Maybe he has so many things going on that accomodating you 2 times a week is all he can muster. Not saying that your a burden but you have been out 2 times a week for 3 weeks that's 6 times a month. That's alot for someone to adjust their schedule if it's really busy. With this day and age one thing that is extremely important to you is to NOT rush anything. You need to get to know that person before you commit to a relationship. With e-mail there are strange people on here and you never know what they do with their free time. LOL. Seriously just have fun when you can and don't be pushy. I would honestly date a few other people too just to make sure your getting your whole plate full. 3 others should do it for you. That way you have the romantic one/ the hopeless one and the pushy one all covered. Then when you do make a decision it will not be in vain. Good luck. Sincerely Ed
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reader, Suzie Q +, writes (21 December 2005):
Hi Marie,
Seeing a guy once or twice a week and then not hearing from him for a week is not normal, it's just plain rude! I'm guessing he is probably trying to give you the impression of being 'not too serious' - but with the communications technology that is around today there's no excuse for not even managing the odd email or text. If you contact him first does he respond or ignore you until it suits him? Also, when you are together, do you get any feeling for what he does when he is not with you? Could he be in a relationship already?
It is very early days yet and the amount of time you are spending together is not unusual, but the lack of contact in between - if he really likes you - is! have a think about why that might be . . .
Hope this helps.
Cheers,
Suzie
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