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writes:My boyfriend and I have just found out we are having a baby, which is amazing and a miracle, as we were on our journey of ivf, but found out the day before treatment started that I was pregnant.My boyfriend has been different towards me since we found out. We have been together 3 years. He seems to not want to be around me at the moment, can anyone please help me understand whats happened to him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 July 2012):
 Congratulations!
And honey, talk to him.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (15 July 2012):
Talk to him. The chances are that there something in his head telling him it’s all too good to be true. He’s probably not getting his hopes up because he fears something might go wrong. So he’s holding back from getting excited, and if you are over the moon about it, he’s probably worrying about how disappointment again might affect you. Sit him down, ask him how he is and ask him to be honest about how he’s feeling. Reassure him that it’s okay to be worried or nervous, but that you need to tackle those worries together. Explain that so long as you look after yourself, attend your appointments and seek medical advice if you’re at all worried about anything, there’s every chance that you will have a successful pregnancy and the baby you’ve wanted for so long. Tell him that sometimes, people are lucky in life in the end. Tell him how much you love him and need him by your side through this.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 July 2012):
 I am sure you and your boyfriend were advised of the time that can be involved in the IVF process, he would have prepared himself for a wait, some disappointments and possibly even failure. That would have been where his head was .... he knew the path he would be taking, and then wham, he took a magic shortcut he never expected, and rather than the process outlined above, the baby is going to be here in just a few short months. It may be taking him a while to get his head around the notion, his life changed over night, and so did you! He may have to become accustomed to that fact quicker than he expected as well.
Give him a little time, and if things dont resolve themselves in a few weeks have a talk to your doctor or medical professional.
And CONGRATULATIONS!
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